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i can totally understand you, my mum is the same and i know how awful it is to be invalidated after building up all that courage to finally open up. it's devastating. are you at school or uni? perhaps there's a student counsellor or therapist you can see without your mom knowing. i know how bad it sounds to do stuff behind their backs but if it's the only way then welp
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I’m going into my last year of 6th form, I turn 17 next week. Thank you so much for the advice. I’ll give it some thought, but I think he woman at our school is just a well-being practitioner, and I don’t think she’ll be able to help, really.
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Talk to others who have the same trouble it will calm you from your problem when I have intrusive thoughts I tested a friend who has the same problem and he always helps me
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i am so sorry to hear that. this is one of the reasons why im scared to tell my parents that i want therapy , im afraid they will invalidate me. maybe you can meet a therapist when you leave the house? im planning to do that bc i don't want my parents to know haha
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what i mean by leave the house i mean when you go to uni or something
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like what you are telling her Tiggers her only emotional issue. Try to not take her reaction personally. Although I understand you may need her help to get into therapy. I don't know your age. Maybe you can see a GP for some support on you seeing a therapist. If that's how it works in the US. I'm in Australia and we usually see a GP (general practitioner) first for a referral to a therapist. You definitely won't feel like this for ever. I've had depression and anxiety for years and am only coming to an OCD diagnosis, but ever thing I've already learnt has helped and I love life my life so much more than I did a few years ago. I wish you all the best.
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Definitely. She’s had a history of anxiety and depression. We just got in a huge fight and she told me to ‘get a grip’ and ‘stop whining all the time’ - Ive only spoken about my mental health twice. She also threatened to punch me if she wasn’t trying to get onto medicine!! So she basically said if she didn’t need to protect herself from a criminal record she would punch me :))) But thank you for the advice❤️
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Oh and she does hit me, and chase me, and tell me I have a ‘stupid voice’ which is nice :)
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@lavenderyellow Ok. Well that is physical and mental abuse. You are one strong and persistent person to withstand it. I hope you get out of that situation. Thank you for replying to what I wrote. I'm glad it resonated and was helpful.
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Wow- that is so invalidating. I would see if there is another support you can talk to to convince her to get you therapy. That is absolutely ridiculous. Print out an article and make her read it.
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When I was a kid my parents went through every probelm except adressing my mental health, until I got to the point where I begged them to take me a doctor to cut out the part of my brain making me have the thoughts and I aouldnt care if that meant restarting my mental life. I was only 8 but that really made them realize I needed to go to a doctor because that scared them
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I'm 15 turning 16 soon and I'm 100 percent convinced I have ocd.. I have been having major symptoms since I was 13, the constant what ifs, rumination, compulsions, guilt, anxiety from intrusive thoughts. I tried to open up about it to my parents when i was 13 but they dismissed it cause they don't believe in mental health.. I really want to get better. My parents won't listen to me and I don't wanna tell a teacher at school cause that would make things worse as they would just tell my parents and obviously since I'm 15 I can't afford therapy.. I don't know what to do :(
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my mom has been on this adhd kick where she thinks everyone has adhd instead of what they actually have because apparently it can present itself as anxiety. well i told her i was taking prozac because that’s something she needs to know since i still live at home. and she’s fine with it because it’s my choice. however, she comes into my room because she sent me a video about adhd. in the video, at the end, it says “girls with adhd may develop perfectionist or obsessive compulsive tendencies.” THEN, she has the audacity to tell me my compulsions didn’t start to show until after high school when that isn’t true at all. i just never talked about it, but of course she doesn’t believe me. i just feel so invalidated because after all of the hell i’ve been through, to be told i don’t have what i most certainly am positive i do have is atrocious. i would lose my mind if i was told i didn’t have ocd because of the intrusive thoughts i get that make me feel like a terrible person. i feel like being told that sets me back so far and makes me want to thought spiral a bit. i’m so upset.
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