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i can totally understand you, my mum is the same and i know how awful it is to be invalidated after building up all that courage to finally open up. it's devastating. are you at school or uni? perhaps there's a student counsellor or therapist you can see without your mom knowing. i know how bad it sounds to do stuff behind their backs but if it's the only way then welp
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I’m going into my last year of 6th form, I turn 17 next week. Thank you so much for the advice. I’ll give it some thought, but I think he woman at our school is just a well-being practitioner, and I don’t think she’ll be able to help, really.
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Talk to others who have the same trouble it will calm you from your problem when I have intrusive thoughts I tested a friend who has the same problem and he always helps me
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i am so sorry to hear that. this is one of the reasons why im scared to tell my parents that i want therapy , im afraid they will invalidate me. maybe you can meet a therapist when you leave the house? im planning to do that bc i don't want my parents to know haha
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what i mean by leave the house i mean when you go to uni or something
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like what you are telling her Tiggers her only emotional issue. Try to not take her reaction personally. Although I understand you may need her help to get into therapy. I don't know your age. Maybe you can see a GP for some support on you seeing a therapist. If that's how it works in the US. I'm in Australia and we usually see a GP (general practitioner) first for a referral to a therapist. You definitely won't feel like this for ever. I've had depression and anxiety for years and am only coming to an OCD diagnosis, but ever thing I've already learnt has helped and I love life my life so much more than I did a few years ago. I wish you all the best.
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Definitely. She’s had a history of anxiety and depression. We just got in a huge fight and she told me to ‘get a grip’ and ‘stop whining all the time’ - Ive only spoken about my mental health twice. She also threatened to punch me if she wasn’t trying to get onto medicine!! So she basically said if she didn’t need to protect herself from a criminal record she would punch me :))) But thank you for the advice❤️
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Oh and she does hit me, and chase me, and tell me I have a ‘stupid voice’ which is nice :)
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@lavenderyellow Ok. Well that is physical and mental abuse. You are one strong and persistent person to withstand it. I hope you get out of that situation. Thank you for replying to what I wrote. I'm glad it resonated and was helpful.
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Wow- that is so invalidating. I would see if there is another support you can talk to to convince her to get you therapy. That is absolutely ridiculous. Print out an article and make her read it.
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When I was a kid my parents went through every probelm except adressing my mental health, until I got to the point where I begged them to take me a doctor to cut out the part of my brain making me have the thoughts and I aouldnt care if that meant restarting my mental life. I was only 8 but that really made them realize I needed to go to a doctor because that scared them
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- 22w
I had like a really bad argument with my mom basically about her complaining about my “attitude” and “constant arrogance” like okay firstly 😭 yes i do have an attitude and am irritable but im not THAT bad 😭🙏 she was saying that im a “pest” and that “its not enjoyable to live with someone who makes other people miserable” like 😅🧍♀️ oh ☺️ and then i tell her that i know im struggling and that im going to therapy to try to get better and trying to possibly get a diagnosis and she says “your generation just wants something to deal with. You want something to be wrong with you. ‘Trying to get better’ isn’t good enough… would you be able to stand someone like yourself? You’re just choosing this antisocial, narcissistic behaviour and harass everyone… You need to pull yourself together. No matter how much effort we put into you, you will never be happy. You want some medicine? Some diagnosis? Because that will solve everything?” 😭😭😭 and the way she said “some medication”- she sounded so disgusted and appalled and now i feel ashamed… i mean im not officially diagnosed with ocd and it is never my intention to self diagnose- but im sorry its VERY obvious when you have ocd and know of ocd- its so distinct. Everything- the compulsions, reassurance, intrusive thoughts, themes, patterns, perfectionism- but she has me overthinking- what if i dont have ocd 😭 and ive just been lying to myself and everyone maybe its not ocd and im just sick in the head or trying to self sabotage- and especially when my supposed ocd is calm or not as loud i get so anxious “what if i dont have ocd…”
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My mom will sit and listen to me for quite a while, but she interrupts a lot and gets angry/upset. While I appreciate her passion, it's often stressful. Every time I come to her, if I even *mention* OCD, she gets frustrated and says, "Everyone deals with these issues, you know. It doesn't mean it's OCD." And I repeat, "I'm not saying my issues are unique — I'm saying the way I respond to them is a problem." But she just shakes her head and says, "Okay, I need to get back to my day." Full context, I'm an adult, and I live with my boyfriend, but I'm staying at my mom's for the next month. After living away from home for years, I went back to living with her during the pandemic, and I only recently left to live with him. Honestly, I think living with her for so long in my adulthood really messed with me and made me feel like a teenager all over again. I feel like my mental growth is stunted, and that's part of why my OCD is so bad lately. Not blaming, just noticing. She doesn't seem to understand how relieving the OCD diagnosis has been for me, because it explains so so so many things I've struggled with for years, and it's exciting to have more resources that can help me. But I think she sees it as me finding an excuse to *not* work on myself, which is just untrue. I'm not going to let OCD hold me back or use it as an excuse, but I'm also not going to pretend it's not a problem when I know it is — I was even diagnosed through NOCD. The whole point being to fix it, not use it as a crutch. When I have an issue, it's unbearable. Any issue, big or small, feels just the same. I feel a sinking feeling, my mind races, my heart beats out of my chest. I end up running to my support systems, crying, ruminating for days on end. Then, months later, the same exact issue can feel like nothing anymore, because it's no longer an obsession. I'm sure everyone deals with issues in a similar way, but I *know* there is something specific and debilitating going on with me. This is reassurance seeking, but in the face of being told I'm making a big deal out of nothing, can someone diagnosed with OCD tell me if they relate to the specific intensity of these feelings??
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- 15w
I'm 15 turning 16 soon and I'm 100 percent convinced I have ocd.. I have been having major symptoms since I was 13, the constant what ifs, rumination, compulsions, guilt, anxiety from intrusive thoughts. I tried to open up about it to my parents when i was 13 but they dismissed it cause they don't believe in mental health.. I really want to get better. My parents won't listen to me and I don't wanna tell a teacher at school cause that would make things worse as they would just tell my parents and obviously since I'm 15 I can't afford therapy.. I don't know what to do :(
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