Rocd help I have rocd the other way around Im terribly afraid that my boyfriend might stop loving me or might not love me. I’m always checking how he feels towards me, checking how often he says I love you, checking if he is attracted to me... He tells me that I don’t need to worry about that but I’m unable to trust or believe him. Always questioning: What if he doesn’t love me and is afraid of telling me? What if he lies to me? What if he thinks he loves me but doesn’t? What if he pretends to protect me from pain? Im always trying to be the nicest to him and to please him I do a lot of researches on the internet And because I fight against jealousy because of my intense fear of loss, I’m afraid of him going out by himself. He might find someone else or start thinking that I’m boring... my fear is so intense that it actually feels like a physical pain in my heart. I told him about all of that and my fear He said that I wouldn’t need to worry and that he won’t leave me, that he loves me and that he only wants me and no other. He already said that very often because I’m questioning so much... Well today I looked at the horoscope and I regret it Because it says that I will get news tonight ( when he goes out with his friends after a long time) I then went on another page and there it said that my love life will struggle... im now TERRIFIED ARE THOSE THINGS TRUE? I don’t want to lose him! I ve had rocd before but I feared not loving him... I have the same patterns like before Which is why I’m also asking myself if I have rocd from another perspective now... I don’t know what to do

xoxo123

Date posted: 6y

i’m passing exactly the same thing as u.. i doubted my feelings for him in the past for 6 months and it sucks.. and now? im obsessed with him.. you are not alone. if u need someone to talk to regulary, u can give me some social media and then we talk about our thoughts! and about the horoscope, they all are coincidences, one day i saw that too and i got triggered, and then i stopped following those pages.. it’s not gonna happen nothing!

Aela

Date posted: 6y

Has he ever done anything to break your trust? Has he cheated? If the answer is no then focus on seeing if this is your ocd. Also try not to put so much pressure on him for reassurance in the relationship. If he loves you, he loves you! Its your OCD trying to make you think otherwise.

Rasmus

Date posted: 6y

OCD or just anxiety, sounds like you have a perfect ERP-exercise. Try not to answer your thoughts for thirty seconds or one minute, possibly with the help of mindfullness every time the thought comes. Then slowly expand that time to two minutes and so forth

SkinnedWater

Date posted: 6y

It's hard to keep ocd and reality and regular anxiety separate. Important to recognize them though. I believe in you.

xoxo123

Date posted: 6y

i followed both of u

danielle.lf

Date posted: 6y

He did not cheat or anything like that. Thanks for all the messages! One of my social medias is „ aesthetic_air_“ it’s an old account pls message me

waterlady

Date posted: 6y

@katherine12345 could you explain your situation, I'm interested. ?

kitten21

Date posted: 6y

I have definitely experienced the same things. The internet is a huge trigger. I am here to talk as well!

xoxo123

Date posted: 6y

done!

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