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I don’t want to judge your friends, but I really don’t like the reactions they are giving you! Maybe I just have a lot of friends with their own social anxieties, even with those of us we trust to share it all. Maybe I’m just a little older and the rest of my friends realize how busy life gets too. But I really truly wish for you some understanding on their part. YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG! Take time for yourself, detach from your phone when you need to. If you find you’re detaching as part of an OCD compulsion, then fight it in baby steps, just like all the other ERP practice. But taking time to breathe before doing something that makes you anxious is OK! I’m glad to hear you are planning on working on it! Feeling less guilty about something you really shouldn’t be made over which to feel guilty might help your progress. Anytime anyone hermit shames you, know I’m telling you it’s ok! I’m your cheerleader! And if you’re working on answering a text or call for YOUR OWN PROGRESS, not just to please someone, know I’m cheering you on even more! And if you like dogs, you can totally ask the universe and my dog will send you a gentle hug and be there with you in spirit while you fight. And he’ll be there if others make you feel down about the process too! So much comfort and strength your way! And so much understanding sent to all your friends in hopes that they’ll start to get it! 💜💪🏼💡
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Is it possible for you to let them know that you really care, you're just struggling right now? This sounds like withdrawing and isolating. I'm guilty of it too.
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I do, but it just sounds like a crummy excuse :/ I think people don't understand how difficult it can be? I'm sorry you isolate and withdraw too
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@Archer Yeah, it's at the point where it is damaging your relationships. It may seem like a crummy excuse because we are overly critical of ourselves. If a friend texted me that, it would go a long way. I wish the best for you ♡
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All i can say is that I have been doing this for 3 weeks
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Hey everyone. I hope you all are doing okay. I’m currently struggling in the worse way I have through the course of my relationship. We are doing long distance right now, and I am unfortunately in the worse place I have been in. The uncertainty is absolutely unbearable. He is doing a cool new, consuming job 7 hours a way. He loves it, but I fear him loving the job so much that he stops caring about me. I have definitely noticed a shift in the amount of time he texts me and the energy he can give to the relationship. The job actually started off with 2 weeks of no phone. He has it again now though. We saw each other a couple of days ago in person for the last time we would in about two months. I was okayish when we were in person though I knew I would spiral later. And spiral I did. He left and I broke down. I am worried I will lose him. I start a really intensive EMT program in a week. It will be all-consuming for me. I can’t sleep very much and I don’t feel like eating. I know it’s pathetic. I am constantly consumed by these fears. I think I know what I need to do to combat them. Accept uncertainty but it feels like the possibly of it ending feels more real than ever. And I literally can NOT stop thinking about it. My brain feels in danger!!! I just worry that bad stuff is actually happening. I think we are going through a rough patch, but I also just feel more alone than ever. Drowning in my mind. What do I believe? I have a past of ocd, so it wouldn’t be surprised if it’s getting intertwined. Most people would say: it’s okay to ask him for reassurance about the relationship!!! But I feel like that’s the trap for me. I don’t know how to move forward. I know things are tough for us right now. But I’ve been floating back and forth on a spectrum of well maybe I just have trust to maybe this literally won’t work out!!! Texting and communicating over text is really hard for me. I am constantly analyzing it: how much energy is he giving? How much energy am I giving? Well I don’t want to do all the emotional labor, and be the main texter. But I also don’t care about texting that much and get exhausted with this back and forth.
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