Do you guys think it could be an OCD thing for me to constantly be googling if I'm weird or abnormal for never having had a boyfriend yet at 20? I am always feeling bad about it and googling to see what people say or to find others in the same situation

I have never heard of a theme like this though. Is it still ocd?

@Anyonomous If your thoughts are bringing you anxiety and you fear that, it's OCD. Consult a professional as I am just an OCD sufferer with little knowledge I have gathered over the months.

Wow. Glad to see I am not alone in this! I think it could be a theme. I am obsessing over it and googling a lot.

@Anyonomous Mine doesn’t consume like all of my waking hours with terror like hocd does though so I’m wary of calling it an obsession

@missbluesky Yeah I get that. I definitely have had more troubling things but still wonder if it's ocd related or I guess it could be a general anxiety thing? I'm not sure

@Anyonomous Do you think about it constantly?

@Anyonomous Lol I worry that if it’s just general anxiety that I don’t actually have OCD

@missbluesky Not constantly but soemtimes its more constant than others. Today it has been worrying me a lot and I have been googling and trying to not feel anxious about it.

@Anyonomous I totally relate. Totally.

@Anyonomous Lol I never try to resist googling about it, but I should. I had a phase where I would check if celebrities I looked up to had dated in high school, like, compulsively. I think it’s probably ocd related

@missbluesky Me too with the celebrities!!! That's crazy! How old are you btw? I'm in college and I'm afraid I won't date until after or never 😕 I also would try to think of all my friends or peers and think if any of them hadn't dated yet 😅

@Anyonomous Really!?!! Wow! I’m in college too, I literally have the same fear. All my friends date and I feel so weird and ugly for not having a boyfriend lol

@missbluesky Oh my gosh. Exactly my thoughts haha 😅 I can't tell you how often I have thought that it must be because I am ugly or weird lol. It's like you are reading my thoughts 😂

@Anyonomous I struggle really badly with HOCD so my brain also likes to say I haven’t had a boyfriend because guys can “tell” I’m a lesbian or the universe won’t allow me to have a boyfriend because I’m actually a lesbian. It’s so weird what our brains come up with.

@missbluesky Me too! HOCD isnt one of my main themes. Its a secondary one though and I always think things like that too. Like maybe I am a lesbian bc I haven't dated or maybe I just give off that vibe 😕 why is ocd like this??

@Anyonomous ugh yes. HOCD is my main theme (literally has tortured me for almost 8 years off and on) and somehow all my other obsessions relate back to it. Even when it’s not at the forefront of my brain, I still do subtle compulsions.

@Anyonomous I REALLY worry that I give off that vibe because I’m a bit alt as far as style goes and my major (English) has a lot of gay people in it.