Jbgys543
- Date posted
- 3y
cheyrascheyras
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Yup. And you’re right. A mental condition is a pretty important thing for someone to know before deciding to be with you long term. I told a few of my girlfriends about my ROCD. Some of them really wigged out, took it personally, etc. sucked at the time, but it was a gift. Those girls were not the right kind of person for me. They’d have been stressed out by my condition and maybe would have never really understood or been able to handle it. It wasn’t the end of the world. The woman I married, I told her about my OCD. I told her how it was distorting my thoughts about me, about her, and about our relationship. She got it. She was supportive. That was also a gift, one she is still giving to this day. Doesn’t mean you have to overexplain, or tell someone you’re dating every single intrusive thought that pops into your head (in fact, that would probably be a confession compulsion so don’t do that.) But they should absolutely know that you have OCD and at least something about how it affects you because it’s an important part of them understanding who you are.
cheyrascheyras
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
I would say, resist the urge to tell them about the events themselves that you feel compelled to confess about, but absolutely tell them you have that type of OCD and about your general themes and what your compulsions are, as well as how you are working on it so they can help support you. Obviously, a first date isn’t the best time to bring that up. Wait until there’s at least something of a connection established and you know you both like each other a lot.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
I definitely worry about this, I try to remember that our character is not defined by who we were in the past, but by who we are trying to be today... just a thought hope this helps.
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Anonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 24w
Pls I need advice
I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
Gato0z
- Date posted
- 20w
Help
Told my close friend about how I think I have harm ocd and showed a video describing her experience with it so I wouldn’t have to share mine. Told him how when I see the number 22 I get paranoid that I’ll harm someone, and he gave me advice to go to a psychiatrist then left me on read after we were having a conversation prior. I’m so scared to open up to people about it and now I don’t think I will again.
anonymous737...
- Date posted
- 14w
not sure if this is a ocd thought or not
I feel wrong because at one point i didn’t tell all my coworkers about my boyfriend because i wasn’t sure if we would break up or not and i wanted to i guess keep my options open and i thought one of my coworkers were cute and he also ended up being my plug later on but i never did anything with him i swear also he’s like 16 and i’m like 19 pregnant with my boyfriends baby do you think it’s ocd because i know if i tell my bf it would probably just make him angry
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