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I think it’s more about just not focusing on it. Accepting that you don’t know the answer, practice saying out loud maybe I am * maybe I am not. Look up CBT and practice those things when you can’t stop ruminating , for example get out your phone and read or play a game, or text someone and ask them how their day is going, go for a run, do a craft etc. If you have real event ocd then read about shame and guilt will help you accepting that you’re not perfect and you don’t have to be proud of everything you’ve done or said. Hopefully something in this helps you

Remembering that anything meant for you will find it’s way to you. That you’re not missing out on anything and just because you don’t have something or don’t know something yet doesn’t mean you never will.

Using scripted “lean-ins” in response to intrusive thoughts. Like “yeah, maybe” or “I’m not sure” or “I’ll never know.” Repeating this uncertainty helped me accept it over time.