So im bisexual and sometimes i get thoughts about what if im just straight or what if im just a lesbian and this happens in minutes at first i could let it go easily. But now my mind is saying im a lesbian wich i know isnt bad but it just isnt me?? I cant see me myself just liking girls cuz i have liked a few guys in the past i just havent been going out much so i dont see many people. And at fist i could be like ok thats fine but i wanna be in a relationship with a guy lol like i just want that. And then i get the feeling that i dont like anyone and that im aromantic ( i have adhd maybe that explains stuff)

I feel the exact same way from time to time. And it scares me because my OCD then tries to invalidate my current long term relationship because of my questions. I’m here with you! Hang in there.

I think SO-OCD can be extra confusing for bi people! Avoid trying to answer the questions. OCD makes us feel like we urgently need to figure out our sexual orientation with 100% certainty. That’s not realistic or necessary. The more you can accept not knowing, the less power OCD will have, and the more at peace you will feel!

Are you working with a therapist yet for ERP? Sit with the uncomfortableness…maybe you are, maybe you aren’t. Does it change anything either way regardless? Focus on the present moment and just enjoying today, one day at a time.