My husband and I had a huge fight because of my Rocd. I asked for reassurance and he yelled and said he is tired from the endless questions. He says he loves me but how can we be in a marriage when one of us is completely unhappy. We have a small baby and I feel so.confused. I believe he will never accept I have a mental illness and deep down believes that I somehow choose to be like that. I know that understanding is not easy but what can I do when I feel so bad and sick already. How do you cope when there's no understanding and compassion???

I know it's really hard because I suffered with ROCD as well before I got help. It is possible to recover from ROCD. One of the things you have to do is eliminate the reassurance seeking. Like all OCD, we are all just fine with most uncertainty but when it comes to our theme, for some reason, it becomes difficult. One of the things that helped me was writing scripts about whether I loved my wife or not. It is hard but you can overcome this. I am living proof.

Don't be sad because of your ocd. Your mom loves you no matter what because you are her child. I wish people could understand how terrifying ocd really is. I suffer most of the day and feel numb. I find it hard to do simple things. It might be good to have a family but believe me it is really difficult when you are not fully understood. Healthy brains may see us as stupid, overanalyzing people but we just suffer. It's not our fault that we cannot have a healthy brain. You will find the right partner for you that will try to understand and help because he will love you. Hold on and hope for the best!