I need help please My mom passed away in december of last year and only haver passes some months and It appears my father is talking with another woman. Me and my sister, dont know what we should do. I am starting to get depressed about this. I was feeling better and now I dont know what to do. My sister is angry about this and me too. We havent talked to him yet. What makes me confused is that my sister looks to be talking with someone too... And then theres me, a person who doesnt have any friends, that doesnt talk with nobody. I am a lonely person. Again my sister talked about leaving and without saying, I would end up alone with my father without knowing what to do, like a lost child I feel sometimes I am to people like a poor toy who nobody wants, but that I am used and then they throw me away I dont even know what to do or to feel and yet I need to hear my sister saying I am selfish...

TiredMindOve...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Hi ❤ You are important and you are loved. I'm sorry you are struggling right now.

Heello

Date posted: 4y

Thanks, I Hope everthing gets better soon and I feel better too

hope

Date posted: 4y

firstly, i am so sorry about your mom. <3 secondly, i think you being upset is valid because it’s difficult to see new people come into your dads life after your mom. i think it’s important to talk to him about how you feel, communicating is key. also don’t feel like you’ll end up alone, you have no idea what the future holds for you, you could always meet new friends, i use to be the biggest loner & thought the same, but i took a leap of faith & sat with someone in school & know i have a friend group. so don’t lose hope. just because it feels like this now, doesn’t mean it’ll feel like this forever. :) <3

hope

Date posted: 4y

*now

Heello

Date posted: 4y

Its because all this is odd... Odd and strange... All this situation. I am not angry because somewhat he is moving forward on the loss, but also because I am worried about our family. I dont to see my sister and he discussing, almost fighting. And she wants to leave. I even thought about looking for some hotel or room for her to rest, like Airbnb, so she could go with our dog and forget about this a little and I would hold on here alone. I dont to see more fight

hope

Date posted: 4y

@Heello it’s not wrong to feel strange because it’s a very new thing & if there is fighting then finding a place to take a step back is a good idea. it’s healthy to create boundaries for your guys’ mental health. you seem like a very understanding, caring sibling to want to do that for your sister too, but remember to also prioritize your own boundaries. i wish the best for you!

k-low

Date posted: 4y

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that :( I know it must be incredibly hard. But in the other hand you could also review how you feel towards your dad. It must have been equally as hard for him as for you guys. And sometimes finding someone new is the best step in recovering. Maybe you could try to feel happy for him, which isn't easy. But maybe it's best for him to move on, having someone new doesn't mean he never loved your mother. It's just means he is trying to cope. Probably speaking to him would help a lot!

Heello

Date posted: 4y

Yes I understand. Of all persons I know I cant judge him or be angry. I just want ouro family, me, my sister and him to be able to live in harmony at least. I feeling a little better right know, cause I was also feeling guilty. I will try to talk with my psychiatrist as soon as possible too

CDE1980

Date posted: 4y

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My mom passed last October and it's been tough. I know how it feels to not have friends or feel like you have no one to talk to. I don't know if you believe in God or not or have a relationship with him but I know that God is a present help in times of trouble. He is the one who can bear our burdens when we can't. He is someone who you can always call on without him judging you. God loves you and he will never leave you or forsake you. He has been my strength since my mom passed. I have my moments when I grieve but if you believe in him he will see you through

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