- Username
- Heello
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hi ❤ You are important and you are loved. I'm sorry you are struggling right now.
Thanks, I Hope everthing gets better soon and I feel better too
firstly, i am so sorry about your mom. <3 secondly, i think you being upset is valid because it’s difficult to see new people come into your dads life after your mom. i think it’s important to talk to him about how you feel, communicating is key. also don’t feel like you’ll end up alone, you have no idea what the future holds for you, you could always meet new friends, i use to be the biggest loner & thought the same, but i took a leap of faith & sat with someone in school & know i have a friend group. so don’t lose hope. just because it feels like this now, doesn’t mean it’ll feel like this forever. :) <3
*now
Its because all this is odd... Odd and strange... All this situation. I am not angry because somewhat he is moving forward on the loss, but also because I am worried about our family. I dont to see my sister and he discussing, almost fighting. And she wants to leave. I even thought about looking for some hotel or room for her to rest, like Airbnb, so she could go with our dog and forget about this a little and I would hold on here alone. I dont to see more fight
@Heello it’s not wrong to feel strange because it’s a very new thing & if there is fighting then finding a place to take a step back is a good idea. it’s healthy to create boundaries for your guys’ mental health. you seem like a very understanding, caring sibling to want to do that for your sister too, but remember to also prioritize your own boundaries. i wish the best for you!
Oh I'm so sorry to hear that :( I know it must be incredibly hard. But in the other hand you could also review how you feel towards your dad. It must have been equally as hard for him as for you guys. And sometimes finding someone new is the best step in recovering. Maybe you could try to feel happy for him, which isn't easy. But maybe it's best for him to move on, having someone new doesn't mean he never loved your mother. It's just means he is trying to cope. Probably speaking to him would help a lot!
Yes I understand. Of all persons I know I cant judge him or be angry. I just want ouro family, me, my sister and him to be able to live in harmony at least. I feeling a little better right know, cause I was also feeling guilty. I will try to talk with my psychiatrist as soon as possible too
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My mom passed last October and it's been tough. I know how it feels to not have friends or feel like you have no one to talk to. I don't know if you believe in God or not or have a relationship with him but I know that God is a present help in times of trouble. He is the one who can bear our burdens when we can't. He is someone who you can always call on without him judging you. God loves you and he will never leave you or forsake you. He has been my strength since my mom passed. I have my moments when I grieve but if you believe in him he will see you through
Guys, I feel like I am depressed tho. Like actually. When my mom hugged me I didn't even smile. I have had no like expression all day. I feel like shit. At home mom goes to work early and comes home late. Then it's only me my little sister and my dad. Who does everything? I fucking do. I clean, do the dishes, make sure my sisters eat, make everyones bed, puts up games when we play, watching my sister to make sure dad doesn't do anything, and am nice to them. I don't know what more I can do. I feel so much stress every fucking day. I don't tell anyone this but.... Yes I fucking cry everyday, every night. I am just a fucking kid and I do shit like I'm a mom. I haven't told much people about this. I have only told maybe 1 person but... When Kaige( my ex)called me a hoe and everyone was making that a huge joke, I did something I shouldn't have. I cut.i cut myself. I felt I deserved the pain. I deserved everything. That I wasn't worth it. Nobody cares. I let myself hurt for what other people have done to me. And right now at home. I feel like nobody appreciates me. nobody cares. no body knows what goes through my head except me
My house is a complete disaster, yet I’m too depressed to clean it because I know it won’t come out perfect like I would strive for it to be. I know I’m just going to get aggravated and give up on myself, so I’m afraid to even try. On top of that, my relationship is falling apart. I’m always anticipating the worst and acting out on it. I barely leave the house or have any friends anymore. I’m sinking back into a dark place, the dark place I was in almost 3 years ago when my mom passed away, somewhere that took a great deal of strength to get out of, yet I’m sinking and drowning again. My boyfriend seems to judge me now instead of being a supporter, I think it’s because I get angry and he takes it personal. In all reality, I’m mad at myself most of all because I can’t dig myself out of this nasty headspace. I feel isolated and trapped. I’ve let everything go. Is there anybody out there who can talk to me? I feel so alone.
Has anyone dealt with losing a parent while in your 20’s? 2 months ago was the worst day of my life. My mom had been battling an incurable brain cancer for 2 years. Her condition got really bad a little more than 2 months ago. She declined quickly and two months ago today, I watched her be unconsciously carried out on a stretcher out of my house and then a few hours later pass away. It has hit me hard and I still get these bad memory flashbacks of all the bad things I experienced. Has anyone dealt with this? I feel so alone and I don’t like to ask for help. It’s been 2 months and no one really checks on me. I’m trying to keep it together but some days it’s just so hard.
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