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- 4y
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Hi ❤ You are important and you are loved. I'm sorry you are struggling right now.
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Thanks, I Hope everthing gets better soon and I feel better too
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firstly, i am so sorry about your mom. <3 secondly, i think you being upset is valid because it’s difficult to see new people come into your dads life after your mom. i think it’s important to talk to him about how you feel, communicating is key. also don’t feel like you’ll end up alone, you have no idea what the future holds for you, you could always meet new friends, i use to be the biggest loner & thought the same, but i took a leap of faith & sat with someone in school & know i have a friend group. so don’t lose hope. just because it feels like this now, doesn’t mean it’ll feel like this forever. :) <3
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*now
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Its because all this is odd... Odd and strange... All this situation. I am not angry because somewhat he is moving forward on the loss, but also because I am worried about our family. I dont to see my sister and he discussing, almost fighting. And she wants to leave. I even thought about looking for some hotel or room for her to rest, like Airbnb, so she could go with our dog and forget about this a little and I would hold on here alone. I dont to see more fight
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@Heello it’s not wrong to feel strange because it’s a very new thing & if there is fighting then finding a place to take a step back is a good idea. it’s healthy to create boundaries for your guys’ mental health. you seem like a very understanding, caring sibling to want to do that for your sister too, but remember to also prioritize your own boundaries. i wish the best for you!
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Oh I'm so sorry to hear that :( I know it must be incredibly hard. But in the other hand you could also review how you feel towards your dad. It must have been equally as hard for him as for you guys. And sometimes finding someone new is the best step in recovering. Maybe you could try to feel happy for him, which isn't easy. But maybe it's best for him to move on, having someone new doesn't mean he never loved your mother. It's just means he is trying to cope. Probably speaking to him would help a lot!
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Yes I understand. Of all persons I know I cant judge him or be angry. I just want ouro family, me, my sister and him to be able to live in harmony at least. I feeling a little better right know, cause I was also feeling guilty. I will try to talk with my psychiatrist as soon as possible too
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I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My mom passed last October and it's been tough. I know how it feels to not have friends or feel like you have no one to talk to. I don't know if you believe in God or not or have a relationship with him but I know that God is a present help in times of trouble. He is the one who can bear our burdens when we can't. He is someone who you can always call on without him judging you. God loves you and he will never leave you or forsake you. He has been my strength since my mom passed. I have my moments when I grieve but if you believe in him he will see you through
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- 23w
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He has been diagnosed with PTSD, Borderline Personality Disorder, and OCD. He's always been a character for sure, very emotional and quick to get irrationally angry but he's been taking meds over the years. Not too long ago he said something about leaving my step mom and/or killing himself along with a few other things. Things were seemingly normal after that up until recently. Him and my step mom were yelling-arguing which they rarely ever do, and my step mom finally got to a point where she told him to go elsewhere if he was going to act that way and so he did. However, he did come back that night and they argued again in the morning. From what I've gathered, he wants space from her, but she's only ever in the same room with him working or on her phone. She loves him and only ever wants to help him get better. She's the whole reason he got medicated and DID get better. He would act this way when he was with MY mom and would lash out constantly. Today I saw that he had disabled his Facebook and Instagram accounts, which he has never done and I'm concerned. Although we both struggle with OCD, this is not what this is about. I simply just need some guidance on what to do and what could possibly be going on with him. I know no one else is going to know him like I do but we don't talk like that so I don't think he'd ever tell me. I'm so afraid of him taking his own life, I've always known he's had it in him but this time I just have a horrible feeling. If I lost my dad that way I'm not sure what I'd do because he's the only person who will ever understand the way my mind works, and I really just can't imagine losing him in general.
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- 23w
TW I am so utterly broken. I feel like my heart is shattered to pieces, within the span of a month I have lost someone that was like a second mother to me and someone who just passed away that was my closest connection to my great grandmother. I am having very taboo thoughts (as well as physical responses) surrounding death because of OCD, while also carrying such a massive weight of grief. Idk if taboo thoughts with death are even normal, while it is overwhelming me, I’m also so numb to grief at this point. Can anyone please give some kind of advice on how I may improve my mental health without overwhelming my family during their time of grief? I’m so tired of being strong, but right now I absolutely have to be. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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