Can someonw tell me what ruminating is

Dwelling on a problem or situation, trying to figure it out and "solve" it :)

It sucks how I do it but don't even know what its called. What ocd do you have?

@LinCoN Yeah! On bad days I'll ruminate for hours. I have contamination and real event ocd. That last one causes me to dwell on past mistakes, making me feel immense guilt and self blame. No fun :(

@washie Yes I experiemce real event ocd too. Its bad when I have conflict wuth someone else then I start overthinking

@LinCoN That's when I listen to Spotify or watch something on YouTube! Distract yourself and give it minimal attention. If you manage to do this over and over, you'll see that the event starts losing importance. (Easier said than done, I know) :)

@washie Thanks so much! Haha I've seen that works

@washie Can I talk to you? I'm in a bad place right now

@LinCoN Sure :)

@washie Man I miss the girl bro. I got her but now she's gone I've never loved anyone since her. And its been more than two years I just want her back. I don't want noone else but her

@LinCoN I'd do so much for this girl so why can't her and I just give it another try :(. If only she knew how I felt about her rn. I guess pride wont let me.

@LinCoN Oh :( That's tough. Did she break up with you or the other way? Are you still in contact with her? Cause maybe if you told her this you'd get a response that would give you more clarity and peace of mind.

@washie I'm listening to Adele rn

@washie Don't let pride stop you. If you're that much in love and you're still in contact, you've got nothing to lose by telling her :)

@LinCoN Which one? Hello or Someone like you?? :)

@washie Hello :(

@washie I don't think she still want me. She look like shes moved on.

@washie I broke up with her after finding out how she felt about the whole thing. The only thing I wanted mire than her was seeing her happy. Even if shes happy without me.

@LinCoN Did she find someone else? The way I see it is that it's better to be open and get a no, than to regret later that you never told her. But you have to make that decision yourself :) If she's moved on, at least you know and can start heal from that. Love can be so complicated sometimes. :/

@washie Aww :( I hope it works out! And who knows, maybe she misses you too!

@washie Yeah I heard you miss 100 per cent of the shots you don't take. It is complicated and its ben two years. If i reach out ill look like a loser but truth is i just have a big heart

@washie I doubt. Imma just try to move on. I really did like her though. I wouldnt mind starting a family with her. But i guess i gotta move on. Hm, imagibe that washie, her being my wife.

@LinCoN 2 years isn't all that. Lots of people break up and get back together. You'd definitely not look like a loser for telling her, I at least wouldn't think that at all. You never know until you try :) And as I said, if it doesn't work out then it's good to know that too. Worst part is not knowing

@washie Yeah that's true. Thanks for tge advice an listening to me :) you seem really cool. Wanna be friends?

@LinCoN Aww you're welcome. You'll figure it out :) Whatever happens, I'm sure things will turn out good in the end :)! Sure, I'm on here from time to time, so hope to see an update post on this later ;)

@washie Hey friend :)

It becones a cycle same one each time over time you'll be abke to depict and notice how and when its ruminating.