Does anyone who is NOT in a relationship worry about getting into one? I worry my family won't l like him and I'll break up because of that, I'm worried about the ROCD that could come, I'm worried about if I will pick the right person to date, etc. Am I alone in this? Not trying to look for reassurance btw, just wondered :)

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That makes sense too! I always am finding reasons they aren't right. Like if they weren't exactly my type or they have some hobbies that I don't.

@Anyonomous Omg yes I do this too. But we shouldn't be looking for male versions of ourselves either lol :/

@washie I think that's where I have made my mistake 😅😂 felt like he had to be just like me haha

@Anyonomous See this is why we are single😂🤷‍♀️ Can't find our clones haha. I'll try to be more open to people having weird hobbies then🤷‍♀️😁

@washie Haha 😂

Omg that’s me all the time. If you don’t mind me asking how did you get over it. I can’t get into a relationship when the opportunity presents itself no matter what I do. I could but I would have tons of Intrusive thoughts, so I just choose to stay single. But please if you don’t mind sharing how you got over that and learned to cope with it. It would be a lot of insight and help. Thanks

@LoveyDuck I'm happy to share. 😊 I don't really know how exactly I got over it. It didn't really come up in the beginning with my current boyfriend. But I also had a crush for over a year on him so it was an immense feeling when we got together. I think the doubts went away and were replaced by the fear of the him not liking me enough, which isn't good either but that went away with time and now I don't fear loosing him. Another thing I experienced before him was that I was seing guys I didn't like that much and I tried to like them because I felt I needed someone to validate myself. And at one point I came to terms with the fact I might be single forever and then I didn't feel pressured to feel anything. I was worried it would be like that forever since I had similar thoughts since I was quite young. But sometimes it just goes away. And for me the less pressure I have with someone the more likely I am to give the person a chance, because I don't feel like I must like them. I don't know if that makes sense. But I think those thoughts are quite common, not fun, but common. But you can always imagine yourself in those scenarios and do some erp's to practise it 😊

@Anonymous Another advice maybe: just take it slow. You don't need to get into a realtionship immediately. Allow yourself to get to know the person. You could wait even 6 months or more to decide what you want. Labels can make things super scary, and sometimes there is no need to label something immediately. Just allow yourself to feel whatever

@Anonymous Thank you very much!! I am going to take as many tips from this as I can. I hope this can help me a bit better. Thank you for sharing and giving some advice to me!

@Anonymous That sounds amazing. The labels are one of things that scare me the most so I’ll try to wait it out a bit. Thank you!

@LoveyDuck I'm happy I could help! And honestly just trust in the fact that it will work out one day. I promise you it will. (even if my younger self wouldn't have believed me this either). Love comes when you expect it least 😘

Yes so true! We are good single or committed to someone! I will try to be open but not force myself either!