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I never thought into this as deeply as yall are, I was just listening to The Marfa Tapes album and felt nostalgic and was in the feels
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I realize now that googling all day and doing compulsions as a safety behavior, has just lead to me feeling chronically unsafe cus im never fully present
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- 4y
Well I think there is an interesting thing here. Nobody suffering with ocd actually cares as much about certaintity, as they care about “feeling certain”. For example- I don’t have compulsive desire to feel certain that the planet won’t explode Tomororw. Because I “feel certain” it won’t. But I have no certainty of it. So ultimately certain or uncertain doesn’t matter- you just desire the feeling of it.
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They don’t think about certantity much, because they “feel certain” about things that are logical to them and they feel “uncertain” about things that logically scare them. It’s ultimately the feeling that holds the ocd suffering person captive. If our brain chemistry gave us a feeling that we were safe, we wouldn’t need compulsions. But since we don’t feel that, we give in to compulsions. That’s why exposure therapy is ideal, because it trains us to get comfortable in the discomfort of uncertainty. And then as a result, our brain begins to associate a feeling of certainty the more we expose ourselves to the disturbance.
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- 4y
Yall are thinking into this post so deeply im literally just like eating some potato chips and watching youtube
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- 18w
Sometimes it feels like I’m chasing pleasure with my intrusive thoughts. Like I just keep thinking them over and over, or even making them worse, because maybe deep down I *want* them. And that’s honestly scary. It feels like I’m trying to prove I’m a bad person or even a p*dophile just to see if I feel disturbed enough for it to count as “real distress.” But sometimes, I don’t even feel that bad. Sometimes it’s just… nothing. Because if I don’t feel guilty or sick enough, doesn’t that mean I like it? That I want to keep thinking about it? Sometimes it feels like I like it. And that’s when I spiral the hardest. But lately, I’m starting to think maybe I’m not actually chasing pleasure. Maybe I’m just chasing certainty. This desperate need to feel bad enough to prove to myself I’m a good person. And when I don’t feel that level of distress, I panic. I do compulsions, just trying to force that feeling. But it never feels “right.” It never feels enough. And I get stuck in this loop of testing, checking, pretending to be okay with these awful thoughts just to see how I’ll react. It’s confusing. It’s exhausting. And it makes me question everything about myself. But I think I don’t actually want these thoughts. Maybe I just want to know, with 100% certainty, that I don’t. If you’re stuck in the same cycle, I see you. You’re not alone. You’re not your thoughts. You’re just trying to make sense of something that doesn’t make sense. And that’s okay.
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- 18w
I hope everyone is holding up okay! I’ve been seeing a lot of scared posts and whatnot lately, so I just wanted to make this post to remind ourselves to practice our uncertainty! I want to share a few response prevention lines that help me calm down! My thoughts do not define who I am. Maybe I’m a bad person, maybe I’m not, but I have a lot of things I need to do now. I’m going to practice not knowing for sure. I don’t have to solve this problem. I am choosing to sit with this uncomfortableness!
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I've been told a lot that in order to get better, we need to tolerate uncertainty, which yea I get that and I'm trying every day more and more to reach that point!! But I've also been told that we need to tolerate uncertainty AND "our worst fears becoming true". Like how does that work, especially with POCD, OCD about a///ault, SA and all of that? Like that is really difficult for me and I don't really understand how I'm supposed to just shrug stuff like that off
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