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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
Just take it slow and go with the flow. Just see what happens. Don’t rush it. You got this!
So should I just wait and see if he messages me? Or should I reach out again? I don't know. I am the worst and social interactions. This is probably why I have no friends : (
@Anyonomous It depends.you can message him saying like “hey, wanna chat” and if he responds wanting to talk go ahead but if he doesn’t respond maybe just wait until he talks to you. He could just want space or time to think. Sometimes people aren’t good at communicating their thoughts or feeling and he could be that type of person. Or he could also just not be a chatty person. Just go with flow.
@LoveyDuck Most importantly do what makes you comfortable!!
@Anyonomous My take on it: it honestly just doesn’t matter. If slightly too many messages is a huge turn off for this dude then he probably just isn’t interested in you anyway. And if he is interested in getting to know you, a few extra messages don’t hurt. Avoid messaging him constantly, give him some time to respond. Beyond that, the frequency of messages just doesn’t matter that much in my opinion. Sincerely, a guy who used to do the same kind of overanalyzing when it came to this stuff
Well he just messaged me 🙃 i need to stop overthinking things.
Don't be so hard on yourself, I also have a really hard time making friends online and in real life, I always feel socially inept, a couple of months ago I ghosted I girl I like (she has a boyfriend though and yep I feel guilty about it), I did it out of insecurity and anxiety (maybe even due ocd, remember it takes something and turns it into a catastrophe), to this point is killing me and I would really like to apologize, then I remember I probably just come into her head when she's drunk and that she has way better stuff and people to spend her time with. You see everyone has different reasons to begin/end communications and sometimes we pay extra attention and value to situations that are not as big as they seem. Try not to reread messages or ruminate about what he's thinking about you. CHOOSE not to ruminate about it.
Thank you :) its good to know I am not alone. I always feel like a social outcast. Went to a bible study the other day ans felt sooo awkward and like no one liked me. I wish I chose not to ruminate about it. He actually just replied back. I need to stop overthinking and realize people may be busy. I just wish I knew how to interact with other humans better
I keep overthinking about the guy I go to church and stuff with and we have had talks about relationships and he’s aware of everything but I feel like I’m not being completely honest. He’s a great man but I doubt because of his looks. He’s not ugly but I’ll see another guy and find that guy super attractive. My heart is so heavy because of my anxiety. I looked on google if you should tell someone honestly that you don’t find them attractive. I don’t know what to do! I feel like crying because what if I’m leading him on. I see post that say looks don’t matter and I agree but I doubt this guy a lot. What if I’m not being completely honest with him. After church we held hands and we hugged. When I’m near him I want to be close and hug not too much touchy stuff though but when I’m at home I’m doubting everything. I feel like a horrible person. I feel like I’m just making excuses or not getting to the point I’ll call my mom when my anxiety and mind starts acting up and then I’ll be calm and now it’s up
This is probably not OCD but I have made a post about this guy. So long story short, last week I texted him asking how his day went with his mom and all that. So he then texts me “how was your day” and I said good and I said “yours” and he said “tough” “I’m going to bed ttyl “ I asked what happened and what’s wrong and never get a response. Next day at work he’s not talking to me so I thought to myself to just wait and give him space. Hours later I eventually ask him at work if he was okay and he said he’ll talk to me after work. Never does. Still never talks to me. The next day is Sunday and he still never texts me so I continue getting ready for church and ended up staying hom and telling him “I’m staying home this Sunday” “I’m proud of you for getting baptized” still no answer until finally Monday night or Tuesday morning he responds with “THX” I come in to work today and my cousin (manager) says he asked her if (the other manager) was going to church tomorrow she tells him “she said no” and then my cousin says “did you ask Bree?” (That’s my name) and he says “I really don’t want to talk to her right now”) he asks my cousin will she go to church with him. I keep overthinking “what in the world did I do” I’m trying to figure out what happened. I feel crazy for wondering what happened for him to all of sudden do this. I just like him as a friend but now I’m starting to dislike him period and have permanently deleted our messages and blocked him today. I took my time and thought hard before blocking and deleting. Maybe he’ll talk to me maybe not but we’re adults and I’m trying to figure out what i did because I’m really confused
I don’t know what to do anymore I made a friend recently in college and was texting her the other night and she mentioned she was doing her nails and I said nice and asked her if I could see. Because I was curious about what she did to them this time around and since then she has not responded to me I apologized to her saying I’m sorry if it bothered her but still nothing. Some of my friends just don’t answer me anymore I feel like I’m a burden of the ones who do still talk me I’m so done with it all. I’m tired of trying to find love as well I feel nothing to it anymore it’s only left me with disappointment and sadness I feel like I’m an unlovable husk of a person and that I would only ever be a bother I cannot fathom the idea of someone loving ME I just can’t I feel like it’s impossible I feel like everything about me bothers people to the point where I think is it even something I should try to achieve anymore. I should honestly block myself from trying to make new friends and relationships I’m so so tired of it. I feel unappreciated and annoyed that I am the one that has to try to keep up any sort of relationship because if I don’t reach out they never will reach out to me the reason I know this is because it’s been proven time after time since middle school that I am nothing to these people and I might as well no longer try. I don’t know what to do anymore I feel like I’m going to be all alone for the rest of my life I’m just so lonely now.
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