I'm really worried. I feel so bad at social interactions. I was messaging this guy (something I never do) and he asked me a couple questions and I responded with a few sentences for each one (not sure if it was that much but...) and he didn't reply back. We had been chatting back and forth and I feel bad he didn't reply or at least like my messages. I didn't ask him any questions back this time and i feel like maybe he's done messaging me and thinks I'm selfish. I wanted to ask him how his day at church was but I didn't want to send too many messages at once. I don't know if now i should ask him? I don't want to be annoying :( i hate how bad i am at making friends. It makes me want to give up sometimes

Ducky🦆

Date posted: 4y

Just take it slow and go with the flow. Just see what happens. Don’t rush it. You got this!

Anxiousaddie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

So should I just wait and see if he messages me? Or should I reach out again? I don't know. I am the worst and social interactions. This is probably why I have no friends : (

Ducky🦆

Date posted: 4y

@Anyonomous It depends.you can message him saying like “hey, wanna chat” and if he responds wanting to talk go ahead but if he doesn’t respond maybe just wait until he talks to you. He could just want space or time to think. Sometimes people aren’t good at communicating their thoughts or feeling and he could be that type of person. Or he could also just not be a chatty person. Just go with flow.

Ducky🦆

Date posted: 4y

@LoveyDuck Most importantly do what makes you comfortable!!

cheyras

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

@Anyonomous My take on it: it honestly just doesn’t matter. If slightly too many messages is a huge turn off for this dude then he probably just isn’t interested in you anyway. And if he is interested in getting to know you, a few extra messages don’t hurt. Avoid messaging him constantly, give him some time to respond. Beyond that, the frequency of messages just doesn’t matter that much in my opinion. Sincerely, a guy who used to do the same kind of overanalyzing when it came to this stuff

Anxiousaddie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Well he just messaged me 🙃 i need to stop overthinking things.

omd19

Date posted: 4y

Don't be so hard on yourself, I also have a really hard time making friends online and in real life, I always feel socially inept, a couple of months ago I ghosted I girl I like (she has a boyfriend though and yep I feel guilty about it), I did it out of insecurity and anxiety (maybe even due ocd, remember it takes something and turns it into a catastrophe), to this point is killing me and I would really like to apologize, then I remember I probably just come into her head when she's drunk and that she has way better stuff and people to spend her time with. You see everyone has different reasons to begin/end communications and sometimes we pay extra attention and value to situations that are not as big as they seem. Try not to reread messages or ruminate about what he's thinking about you. CHOOSE not to ruminate about it.

Anxiousaddie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 4y

Thank you :) its good to know I am not alone. I always feel like a social outcast. Went to a bible study the other day ans felt sooo awkward and like no one liked me. I wish I chose not to ruminate about it. He actually just replied back. I need to stop overthinking and realize people may be busy. I just wish I knew how to interact with other humans better

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