do groomers/pedophiles realize what they did wrong and feel guilty about it?

when I was 15 soon to turn 16, I met this girl in a IG group chat made by our mutual friends. We started talking and eventually we started flirting and talking sexual towards each other, though eventually we stopped talking because she was being really weird. A couple months later In July of 2024 my friend found out that she was actually 13 and that she lied to me about her age. It's been 10 months since l've found out and I still feel so disgusted in myself. I had my suspicions at the time but I let them go since she said she was 16 turning 17. I was completely oblivious trusting someone I only knew online especially since i've never seen their face either. i'm struggling on what to do since i've been suffering with POCD since I was 15. Till this day I still feel weird and disgusted in myself because of that. But it feels ironic since i'm sexualizing someone that's 2 years younger than me and I waited to confirm she was around my age range to sexualize her. I feel so weird and guilty about it idk what to do

I have a dear friend who happens to be fat. I like to tease him because he's a bit shy but it's playful not disrespectful. One day I was messing around with him and I thought it would be funny because he was very fat to act like a creep and reach out with my hands with the grabbing motion as a joke, and I think I playfully pinched his man boobs (I don't really remember but I suppose I did that). It was a joke and I didnt really put much thought to it when I did that as I didn't have ill intent, but I still made him uncomfortable, I'm afraid he felt molested and that I did SA. Even though man boobs are not a se&ual body part I still should have not done that. One day I put an arm around him nothing weird and he told me he was uncomfortable with physical touch, so from then I understood where he was coming from. So I respected his wish and I stopped having physical contact with him entirely. Now lately I've been overwhelmed with a big guilt and a lot of anxiety over what I did that day. I stopped with the fat jokes and just started being more thoughtful with my approach as a friend, just giving him advices, but without trying to make him change anything or making him feel bad abt himself or give unwarranted critics as I did before. We kept being good friends despite that awkward event, and he probably forgot it and it doesn't weigh to him as much as it does for me for what I did. After some time when I was overwhelmed with guilt after realising what I did despite not having bad or se&ual intention, I apologised profusely for what I did that day and he was very chill and told me "relax, don't worry abt it, really". We went to the movies together and I bought him a nice present for his birthday that he appreciated a lot. I still feel guilt. I can't let this one go and I'm sure that you guys agree what I did was very wrong and I agree. Nothing changed, we're good friends. But I feel like I commited SA. It's a guilt that I can't let go and probably shouldnt. I feel ashamed. Even though I try to reassure myself because we have the same circle of friends and they touch me inappropriately all the time as a gay joke and they do that between themselves and do not think much abt it, and one time my same friend did laugh in the car when my other friend kept touching me inappropriately as a joke. I don't know. I don't ask for reassurance and forgiveness. I'm not the type of person to self-absolve his own sins. Just telling this because I think people should know what I did.

hi so i was friends for like 3 years with a girl two years younger than me, when i was 16 she was 14. but we didn't feel the age gap at all and i mostly felt like she's more 'mature'than me so we got along, she was pretty mean to ne thought all our friendship. she was texting with on girl like she was 18 or whatever? and she was rlly weird towards her and we were bpth making fun of thst girl calling her a groomer cuz she was acting this way. but im scared because I didn't do anythin about it sure i told her she's weird and she should stop texting her but it was more jokingly so she didn't listen probably, we could never talk normally like no jokingly. we were dating at some point tho when i was 15(age of consent in my country) she was 13 and yeah we were jokingly like flirting and also i guess sexual jokes or sharing nsfw art..was that illegal or something? i never tried to hurt anyone and all our friendship was online and mostly jokingly cuz we never could be serious about eachother cuz she was pretty rude. i asked her if i groomed her or whatever and she said smth like i can't even groom anyone since im 15 or whatever and that I didn't but still i asked her to like delete conversations out of ocd compulsion or whatever and she did was annoyed tho that im being paranoid again. we don't have contact now, i brooe it cuz she was pretyy toxic but did i groom her? ik grooming is a form of manipulation and i didn't manipulate her at all but yeah