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what did he say?
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I hope this doesn’t sound silly, but he had a dream with other naked women. He said they didn’t have “distinct features” so I’m assuming he couldn’t “see” them. I just felt very insecure
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@illbeok See their faces I mean. Hearing that really just messed with me and he tried to let me know that it wasn’t like that and he isn’t like that (he is a great guy) but it crushed me. I’m feeling so bad rn
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@illbeok ohh i see, it does not. i think reassurance from him should help like that it wasnt like that. your feelings are valid. he probably thought he should have told you, talk to him about it
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@kenny0 He also didn’t even tell me the full dream so I don’t know what else was going on. I feel like this is so tupís tiene be upset about, but what if he’s having sexual dreams about other women? I honestly don’t know what will help me rn. I feel hurt and super emotional. This isn’t easy for me at all, but since he hasn’t dealt with what I’ve been through, it’s something he wouldn’t read into.
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@illbeok This is so stupid**
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@illbeok i see, i think you should really talk to him about. im sure you wioo get the response you want
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@kenny0 Ok. I’ll try to but idk how it’s going to go. Thank you for responding though
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@illbeok will* and im supporting !!@
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@kenny0 Ok I will definitely keep you updated! I just wish I knew how to manage my issues better. Therapy helps but there’s not enough time for everything. I hope you’re ok too
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@illbeok on earth, everyone’s had really weird or disturbing dreams. dreams don’t always mean anything so whatever happened in that dream of his is irrelevant because it’s not reality. do agreeing ERP with this thought. repeat in your head or write down “maybe my boyfriend was being intimate with other women in his dream, but it is not the reality therefore it’s not relevant to our lives or important”
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its not stupid, you should really talk to him about it. it will make you feel so much better
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