How am I supposed to deal with the uncertainty with pocd? Saying “maybe maybe not” gives me so much guilt and I can’t go on knowing that I could be what I fear the most

Especially if it just happened. Back in may I didn’t have a care in the world and now I worry my life is ruined because I have to tell my self I’m not a monster everyday. Life is weird.

Man do I feel you on this 😞

This is a great question that I wish could be answered but I guess uncertainty cannot be answered 😞

There is no certainty and there never will be. All one can ask for is perspective. Maybe maybe not is not a miraculous cure that will suddenly fix your problems right now. It is a way of asserting that despite the uncertainty, things move on and so should you. You are learning to desentisize the mind therefore lending you the ability to have a perspective that might be more balanced. Calling yourself something is as likely as calling yourself the opposite.

I know the feeling, it’s so so hard. I’ve done ERP for some of my worst obsessions where I would feel so anxious and close to tears, but the point of the therapy is to sit with these terrible feelings. So I told myself that I have to be determined, and after a while I was desensitized to those obsessions. ERP really made a difference

Can you explain to me what ERP is? Like what exactly do you do and how does it help?