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Hey i just recently experienced this it’s okay there’s no need to worry it’s called (emotional numbness) im not sure what the main cause of it is but some people say it’s either from experiencing extreme anxiety or depression to the point where ur body starts to protect you from it and that’s what leads to emotional numbness what helped me through this is that i kept reminding myself that it’s okay and remember to not put pressure on yourself to feel it’s okay these feelings will start coming back again you just have to allow yourself to go through this don’t panic everything will get back to normal you just have to give it time.
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You have no idea how comforting that is to hear. Thank you so much. I’m slightly worried because I don’t think I had extreme anxiety or depression recently and I thought this only happened recently to me (although this time last year they were both pretty bad because I was really struggling with ocd so that makes me think how long have I possibly unknowingly been living with emotional numbness). Have you started to feel better recently?
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@Clementine Yes i really got better when i started to not force the feeling whatever the situation is i started to not push myself no matter how bad it is. It HELPED ME A LOT i really recommend you to not put pressure on yourself to feel it’s okay it’s just temporary you’ll start to feel again don’t worry.❤️❤️❤️
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@m.m Thank you so much. It’s so comforting just to know that I’m not the only one who’s felt like this and that there’s hope. I’m glad you’re feeling better now :)
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Absolutely. When I turned 16, that was when the OCD decided to pop in and say hello. It left me experiencing severe anxiety and guilt. After some time I started to feel emotionally numb. As m.m said, it’s your brains way of protecting yourself from any further stress. I worry about the exact same things, so much so that it turned into an obsession (luckily my SSRI’s are doing their job). I think, for me, I know I need to come to terms with the trauma that the OCD caused and face my fears. Obviously easier said than done, because I’m still using this app. Hope this helps. 😊
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It absolutely has helped, thank you. It’s just nice to know that I’m not alone in this feeling because that’s scary to think about. Unfortunately it’s always easier said than done but at least we know it’s possible :)
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Hi Clementine! I remember you. Sorry to hear you're struggling right now. I've been struggling with strong feelings of envy recently and began to feel like I may never feel content again. We can get through this though 🙂.
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Oh my goodness, hi! I haven’t been on here in months because honestly I was doing so much better. I remember you too and honestly you helped me so so much. Sorry to hear you’ve been struggling too but you’re right, we’ll be ok :)
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