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- John Gavin Mehesan
- Date posted
- 3y ago
First off, you have to stop reassuring him as of right now. Answering his questions = reassurance, and that makes things 100% worse, not better. I suggest Dr. Martin Seif’s book on Intrusive Thoughts. He needs to read it and so do you. Maybe read it out loud together so you’re both on the same page.
I enthusiastically second Nica’s advice about reassurance! It sucks to not be able to help your child feel better right away, but sitting with him in his uncertainty and letting him know it’s ok to feel his feelings is the best thing you can do for him. Maybe you could watch some videos together about OCD and reassurance so that he fully understands how you’re trying to help him. If you’re very concerned about his physical symptoms (e.g. if he’s having serious trouble eating or sleeping), visiting a psychiatrist might be necessary so he can get to a place where he’s physically ok. He doesn’t need to tell the psychiatrist about his OCD theme; it should suffice to say that he has an OCD diagnosis and is experiencing a lot of distress right now.
Before I realized I had OCD I sought reassurance from everyone. Now that I've stopped I'm doing 10x better. It's counter intuitive but it's the best thing to do for him. Unfortunately, this is something only a therapist is 100% equipped to deal with. In the meantime, I'd say educate yourself and your son as much as you can and just be there for him. He's lucky to have a parent who loves him as much as you!
Thank you so much....I will get the book immediately!
He’s the first doctor I found about OCD and his book was my first introduction 7 years ago!
you can also get the book on Audible book
Look up other ocd specialists online or in your area. Have him listen to OCD stories podcast on Spotify, there are many episodes on POCD
Hello ?? I’m new here. I’m a mother to a 7 year old boy that has not only been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum, Sensory Integration, ADHD but also OCD. He is afraid or germs, and he’s constantly asking me for reassurance with bad thoughts he is having. From his mind telling him he’s going to hurt me but he doesn’t want to, to telling me his mind is saying he likes boys but he thinks it’s nasty, to constantly repeating things that he did bad years ago that no longer matter even tho he has already told me. Also him saying things that I know didn’t happen but yet he says he’s not sure if it did or if it didn’t happen. To him brushing his teeth and counting. He can brush his teeth now and 2 minutes later I’ll ask him if he brushed his teeth and he will say did you me brush my teeth and if I say no he will say he doesn’t remember and he will go and brush again and again until I say yes I saw you. This is all so overwhelming I don’t know what else to do.
My almost 11 year old (in 1 1/2 weeks) son, has just started experiencing Moral OCD. Now that I’m understanding more and more about this type of OCD, I guess there might have been signs of other behaviors, but nothing that interferes with his day to day life. He is having deeply disturbing thoughts over and over! Then he feels the need to confess, I’ve asked him to stop confessing about 2 days ago, and the anxiety has gotten so bad, I’m on the verge of letting him confess them because it’s heartbreaking. He wants to same reassurance over and over and over. Asking the same questions as if we didn’t have a conversation 2 seconds prior! At this point, I need reassurance! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hello I’m struggling really bad with POCD. It’s the absolute worst because the intrusive thoughts are from my own child. I feel so sick like a complete monster to the point that have felt very suicidal I’ve gone to the ER they gave me some medicine but that didn’t help I’ve been looking for therapist in my area and they all seem to be fully booked or there isn’t any . I’m feeling very lost and I don’t want to give up on my family if anyone has any suggestions please let me know . I’ve looked in NOCD does any one have experience with them ? Should I go in turn myself in to inpatient. The thoughts get very Loud at night that it’s unbearable
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