- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I sometimes talk to my family about what I'm dealing with because it's nice to vent and to feel like someone's willing to listen. It only becomes an issue if you start seeking reassurance, or they try to reassure you. That's bad for OCD. Otherwise, if you feel like you want to talk with someone about what you're experiencing, I'd say go for it.
Yeah i mean i kind of want her to tell me it's not something I need to worry about anymore and that it's okay but that would be reassurance I think. I don't know. I don't even know if I should tell my therapist bc it would make me anxious and I would probably be asking for reassurance from her too. I guess I just don't know what to do. It is eating away at me from the inside out and I feel I can barely function with it anymore. I feel like if I talked to my mom she would probably tell me it's okay and not to worry and then I may stop but then again the cycle would probably just start again, idk
@Anyonomous - You may want to speak to your therapist if you're afraid of wanting reassurance, then. They won't give it to you, even if you ask, but they may have helpful advice if you're struggling with mental obsessions/compulsions at the moment.
@Anyonomous Yeah sounds like reassurance seeking. I’m sorry. I can relate to what you’re feeling and wanting to give in but I remind myself of what I really want, the things that OCD interferes with me obtaining
I just got off my session today and after having a confession to my husband last night with a compulsion, he obviously is going to have more questions. My therapist says not to confess because I am growing my OCD . However, this is really OCD and is about something that actually happened. My husband said, that it sounds like I have someone in my life who is justifying withholding information or lying to him. Of course when I have my obsession compulsions, he makes sense. Can somebody help explain this to me? How is my husband not right or is he?
i’ve been dealing with this “thing” since i was 15. (i’m 23 now) if i have a bad memory that i have done when i was really young or just an intrusive thought i feel like i need to tell my mom or boyfriend. it’s been on and off ever since but since January hit it’s been an everyday thing about the littlest things. mostly about my relationship. an example is i was talking to someone random at my job and we were talking about taxes and when im in deep thought or just thinking i do a thing where i bite my lip (not in the sexual way) and i had a thought when it happened “was that sexual?” and i felt like i did something wrong and i went for a while thinking that until i told my boyfriend about it. or like my ex’s face has popped up in my head in the most inappropriate times and i feel the need that i have to tell him. (my ex was not a good person) i feel like im a prisoner in my head everyday, trying to justify thoughts or remind myself that its just a thought. i didnt know that this was or could be a form of ocd. it runs in my family but i’ve just never considered it being this. i always called it anxiety or depression but i always felt like it is more than that.
When I was a child, before I knew this was OCD, I struggled with constant "magical thinking" compulsions (don't step on the crack or mom's back will actually break, etc). When I later learned this was OCD, it almost immediately solved it. Any time I got a magical thought, I would say to myself "that's just an OCD thought. ignore it." and it just stopped coming! Like seriously it fixed the magical thinking stuff forever. But of course the OCD has resurfaced in other ways. So naturally, I've tried to use the same strategy since I had so much success with it previously. But I wonder sometimes if telling myself "that's just OCD" is almost functioning as a reassurance compulsion? I hate how meta this gets. For example, I have ROCD that comes and goes. So sometimes I'll get a thought like "what if i'm still in love with my ex?" and then I'll tell myself "that's obviously just an ROCD thought" and will feel relief, almost like reassurance. But it comes back. So is telling myself that it's OCD a reassurance compulsion ?? It's just so weird because it worked so perfectly as a kid with the magical thinking thing.
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