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- 4y
- Date posted
- 4y
Self compassion, lean into your guilt, do things you love, accept your mistake
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- 25w
I want to move on and accept my past mistakes, but I feel like truly forgiving myself isnāt acceptable. My therapist says not to judge my past self but seek to understand. But if what Iāve done has gone against my moral values, how exactly do I do this? Iāve learned my lesson, and I just want to move on. But that feels like letting myself off the hook. Any tips or advice??
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- 22w
I can be way too hard on myself and beat myself up over the smallest slip up in regards to OCD. Sometimes it can feel like I'm gaslighting myself on what was "so blatantly and obviously a moral atrocity in thought and intent", when 95% of the time I'm not even sure what my own intent with dealing with these thoughts is or why I do what I do. It makes me feel like some shameless beast for "daring to even entertain the thought of something so VILE!!!" When I just get so confused and scared on moral issues, like my mind is pulled down a rabbit hole I can't escape until the tricks are done on me and it's too late, i've accepted such ideas I hate until that hate and trying to not give in convince me "it might not be that bad". It feels like anything, even the most mundane things can trigger this. This cycle happens mainly because I feel like there's "no way to escape committing more 'attrocities' in thought or compulsion anyway"...and these cycles become the basis for more of these incidents. there a way to stop this? There have been multiple times where I called myself the R word, and even knowing it's a slur I still called myself that because "I'm nothing if not deserving of such scorn". Any attempt to stop the madness makes it worse and it's like all this I talked about is so convincing I dare not question it until after the fact. Please help.
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- 20w
I apologize I post here a lot lol. I have a few questions/I want to vent about this. My therapist and I have identified one of the triggers Iāve been trying to work on, which is my fear of never being good enough; for myself, my family, my friends, for my romantic relationships, and just in general. Honestly, I hate myself so much. Not for any reason in particular, but I overanalyze everything I do and let it consume me. I know this is normal for most people, and everyone goes through bouts of self depreciation and lack of self love. Iām trying to give my love to myself that Iāve always given to other people and itās so difficult. Itās really funny, I need male validation even though I feel like I can never trust a man ever again. I was broken up with at the beginning of April, and so you can imagine how my self worth really has been feeling. Iām aware my self worth isnāt based on other peopleās perception of me, but I just want to be loved consistently through my ocd and adhd. It feels like itās too much for people, while I simultaneously feel like Iām making this a massive deal. I donāt want to get into another relationship ever again, I just think Iām too weird for most men or theyāll take advantage of me for something again. I think if a man is nice to me, it means thereās an ulterior motive or a catch. Thereās genuinely no way someone even cares as much about me as I do them, itās always one sided. I love my friends, Iām taking about relationships wise. Not to mention, I hate the way I look and act. When I think Iām somewhat decent looking, thereās always a post to pop up with this stunningly beautiful girl. I can never catch up with modern beauty standards. I hate this so so so much. I hate feeling this way, how do I make this all stop?
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