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- M
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- 3y ago
Nvm I calmed down
Lmaoooo I’m sorry but lmaoooo this is WHOLESOME ♥️ I’m so sorry I hope this doesn’t offend ??? But this is my thought process too! The what ifs are so scary! I find myself in a web of what ifs! Then you calm down😂 oh man , glad you’re ok bud
@🐚 . IM SORRY I DONT WANT TO GET CANCELLED ON THIS APP PLEASE DISREGARD MY COMMENT ? I know this is a sensitive community , but sometimes we can have a laugh ? No I’m sorry I feel bad ugh
@🐚 . No it's fine. Sometimes it brings us laughter when we share the crazy thought processes that come with OCD
@🐚 . NO THIS IS HILLARIOUS IT MADE ME LAUGH SO MUCH. And made me calming down so much quicker. Don’t worry!! I can’t stop smiling it’s fine
Hey, it's alright. You drank it, it's on the past. And about your religion prohibiting alcohol, I'm protestant and I prefer to look at it in a different light. There are many christians who do drink alcohol, even in the protestant branch itself. My current belief is that it's a personal choice, because if you're not careful it can get out of control and get in the way of your faith and your life overall. Having said this, I think it's up to the person to determine if they have this kind of self control, which is risky, because once you get the addiction, it's so hard to get back to how things were before. Because I don't trust myself enough, and also because I'm prone to obsessive thinking, I chose to not drink alcohol. It's much better to look at it as a choice, rather than an imposition. And don't get to caught up on future worries. Stay in the present. These "what if" thoughts are torturous because there's no answer to them, and we blow them out of proportion to the point of becoming farfetched. Just do your best to move on. Finally, I'll try to keep track of your response (f you do respond), but if I don't get back to you again it's because my notifications aren't working :(
Just saw that you calmed down :) but I think the advice still stands. Best wishes!!
Thank you so much for this! I do trust myself but I don’t really trust how addictive it is. And also the fact that even now I have a slight itch for it as a beginner, imagine if I continue. And I don’t want any future problems. So I’d rather avoid it. Also no matter what I always come back down to reality and my dilemmas will not go away until I fix them. So I don’t want it becoming something I use to escape my issues. The only issue is that, and I know it’s so silly and I’d never usually waste my time was such trivial worries. But I’m afraid of how I’d look if I don’t drink at functions. I’ve never been one to care. I’m working on that. Because even I’m aware it’s so stupid
Also thank you for the reminder of not to worry about future worries and only focus on the now/ where I’m making the decision not to drink. Soemtimes as ocd sufferers we lose sight of this logic
@M Yes, I think the same on basically everything you said. If I sulk a little when I feel down, adding alcohol on top of that wouldn't make anything better. And this worry of drinking at functions, it's not stupid at all! Sometimes I think about what I'll do once I'm at college or a professional gathering, but I think this isn't as pressing as we imagine it. Nowadays it's pretty normal for people of all ages to not drink for all sorts of reasons, be it psychological, religious or philosophical. So unless the people you're around are immature or douches, they won't judge you for staying sober or be pushy about it. If they're indeed judgemental, then that's their problem, not yours. And I'm glad I could help you a little! Ocd is crazy, it doesn't look for answers at all, it's all anxiety and doubt.
@Lavander Thank you for this! And you’re absolutely right. If you’re in the right company they wouldn’t judge you . The one thing about my experimenting that helped is now I realise how much I like sparkling drinks. That’s the only thing I’ve developed an addiction for coming out of this 🤣. But my ocd would say otherwise.
Listen to all those what ifs that OCD has put into your mind. Use this as an exposure. Well what if it really has alcohol in it ocd? I'm ok with that because I choose to drink it, I enjoyed it and I'm going to drink it in the future if I want too. And then sit with that anxiety. If you allow the OCD to make you afraid of all these thoughts it's sending you, that's what the ocd wants and needs to stick around. Lean into that fear OCD is trying to get you with. It's hard but you are stronger!
Thank you so much ! I’m definetely gonna practice exposures for this theme it was so sudden that it just caught me off guard
I know this is probably just my ocd but i always worry that because I like drinking I am or will turn into an alcoholic. Another thing is I prefer drinking at home because I don't want to worry about finding a way home when drunk, and I don't mind drinking alone either. I literally always worry about this and now I feel guilty when I drink at all
Does anyone have advice for intrusive thoughts while tipsy? I haven experience this before and then a random thought hit me! Had this happen. The buzz had warn off but it still freaked me out cause I don’t know it was OCD or an actual thought. I got anxiety really bad after.
i’m getting freaked out by myself. Please help. I was wondering if it was wrong to have sex with someone if one person was drunk or tipsy and the other wasn’t but they gave consent. I thought for me at least not anyone else, that if i gave consent when inebriated then it would be okay. But also i see how it’s wrong because why would you want to do anything with someone who is under the influence or not be on the same level as someone when doing these things. A guy i was talking to said he didn’t wanna kiss me once because i was tipsy one night and said no matter what he wouldn’t even touch a girl if she had a drink and i completely understand that, but in my mind if i give consent then that’s okay. Is that wrong though? I don’t like how my automatic response wasn’t the same as his. I don’t want to take advantage of someone or anything ever so i searched it up and people were saying that you can’t give consent when inebriated so now i feel like a terrible person. I feel even worse because when i was thinking of scenarios it felt like i was a little turned on and i feel wrong because what if i felt that way because i enjoyed the thought of taking advantage of someone and but i just don’t want to be the type of person that would do that to someone or think it’s okay. This may be tmi but i imagined giving a guy head and he was drunk but he enjoyed it and it turned me on but now i hate myself because that’s literally wrong. I’ve never even had sex before but i’m still worrying about this. Now i know i for sure wouldn’t engage in anything with someone under the influence but i feel like I don’t even know how i felt about this in the beginning, i feel like my mind automatically jumped to me being the worst. Like is kissing someone when one is drunk and the other isn’t wrong? I just want to avoid doing something wrong or taking advantage of someone at all costs but i’m stressed because what if my way of thinking thinks it’s okay to do those things. Like even if my mind is telling me it’s okay i will avoid and not even go near a drunk guy or try anything but i don’t like that I thought that was okay or that my body responded that way when thinking about it. I hate this. I don’t want this to be me but what if it is. Like why do i feel a sense of arousal or a groinal response when i think about it? is it because it’s of a sexual nature? is it misattribution of arousal? Or am i just actually the worst person on earth? I hope it’s everything but the last, but it seems like that’s the truth. Like this is making me want to refrain from engaging in anything sexual with anyone because i just feel wrong as a person now and that no matter what i’ll be taking advantage of them because of my thoughts.
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