- Username
- Jake12
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Trust me man, performance anxiety is WAY more common than people will tell you it is. No Fap is actually really helpful here, both as a physical drive but also to get out of your own head, which is super important in terms of not getting anxious about, well, getting anxious. Secondly, it's okay to be gay. Not saying you are, I don't even think that you are, but it's still okay. Well done for sharing, I've also got some dark sh*t that I would never be brave enough to share. Way to go.
Hi there!
This was me a couple days ago. What are you up to?
I just can’t find a coping technique and that freaks me out. Like this has been with me for so long now that my HOCD is basically trying to convince me and one of my biggest fears is sharing all this stuff with someone and then them telling me that they think I’m gay. I’ve suffered from doubt and uncertainty my entire life and I’m afraid I’d believe them or like it’s like going to a doctor fearing the worst and it comes true. I’m not having fantasies or genuine curiosity but it’s like making me so sad that it’s killing me that I can’t find a coping technique to make it go away or even reduce it. This is hard for me to say but what happened to me is I stopped having sex after college, just never happened. And finally the first girl that wanted to sleep with me, I couldn’t perform and my anxiety took me to “if you can’t perform for a girl, maybe you’re not attracted to girls” and now that’s stuck. That’s so hard for me to say and now my emotions are completely clouding everything I knew and loved about my old self.
And then there are times that I don’t panic and that in turn gives me panic. I’m just tired of this and just want to find a way to make myself happy.
It’s going to be okay my friend. I fully understand feeling anxious about not feeling anxious. What that means is that you are truly worried about it. OCD is a huge liar about everything, even emotions. Doubt and uncertainty are also huge characteristics of OCD, so that’s what I believe this is.
I appreciate that. Really I do. That definitely helps. I know there’s nothing wrong with being gay. One of my closest friends is gay and and I’ve always supported his lifestyle. Ive gone out with hundreds of girls, made out with tons of girls at bars, always imagined myself having a gf to go on dates with. Just never got to the point of having sex. So what scares me is I can’t find a good coping technique to make myself happy and that’s where the anxiety takes over.
I haven’t posted on here in a few days. Since last Friday I’ve just felt really weird and I’d read other people’s posts and just feel like I don’t relate anymore and it’s not OCD. I’ve needed to cry for 10 days but I just haven’t been able to feel anything. Today I’m feeling horrible though. I’m sick of everything, I’m sick of looking at women to test. I’m sick of clenching my fist when I walk past a woman incase I get the urge to inappropriately touch them (weird sorry). Either that or walking an extra few yards further away just incase. I’m feeling so low that I’ve started to harm myself. I know it’s so so so stupid. I don’t even know why I’m doing it. I just feel so bad. Sorry for this - I know someone might tell me to try therapy. I just needed to talk.
does anyone else feel like they’ve completely lost themself and don’t know what they really feel like or who they are anymore. i have no idea what i should have as morals or if i even care about anything, i’m really stuck, i don’t even know my sexuality anymore, it’s really tough.
Hey, I haven’t been on here in a longgg time and this isn’t necessarily OCD related but I want to tell someone how I’m feeling in the hopes that maybe someone else sort of relates and then maybe we can talk? I don’t know, I’m just a little scared at the moment and could do with some comfort I guess. Ok so the best way to describe how I’m feeling is empty. I’m not sure that I actually feel emotions much anymore. I’m not happy or sad and it’s scaring me, but obviously at the same time it isn’t because the only proper emotions I’m experiencing right now are hopelessness and emptiness. I just want to be able to feel again and I really don’t want this to be a big problem. Does anyone know if it’s even possible for me to get my emotions back? Can I back to normal, although I’m not too sure how normal feels anymore, or how feeling feels anymore. Also, I’m not even sure if that is what’s going on with me. I can barely feel things but at the same time my brains like nah it’s probably nothing, you’ve just not got any reason to feel anything right now. I feel exhausted and without motivation everyday. Thank you to anyone who’s read this, I hope nobody relates but please tell me if you do. I just want to talk.
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