I’m 16 female with a problem with loving my body. I have smaller breasts than every girl at school and I feel like everyone is looking at me when I walk so I have a natural reaction to wear hoodies and cross my arms so it’s not that noticeable, my mom had intergrated and shamed me for small boobs as a kid and I want to talk to her about it. I feel like I only want big boobs to go with the flow to stop the gaze of other. This problem is something I’ve never had the courage to confront it so it makes me hard to last through the day in school. Please help before I get worst

I feel like everyone is looking at me even I feel as the teachers notice. Or if someone is mean to me I think it’s cause they look down on me cause I’m “abnormal” than all the other girls

Since now I’m in a school setting there’s a lot of comparing myself to other girls. And I wanted to force feed to gain weight so I grow boobs then again if I eat too full my anxiety will come and it’ll be harder to breath since my stomach is bloated I’m so heartbroken I think if the world was blind I won’t have to self sabotage. I’ve already broke down and have bad anxiety getting though school. I don’t know if this problem is an underlining issue but I just want to be happy

@GummyDrop I can understand that. But you shouldn’t have to gain weight and make your anxiety worse just to get bigger boobs. There shouldn’t be any of this “comparing” business in your school, but it’s just the way society is nowadays. Have you tried talking to a counsellor on here?

@Iona Barker I’ll be getting a therapist soon cause the person who interviewed me yesterday will present my problems in a office meeting to see who has a open slot as my therapist hopefully my therapist will open up a door inside me that is invisible to me. And I have a doctor appointments next month maybe I’ll discuss this problem with my doctor. It sucks hiding yourself when you deserve light to your name. This all started when I was JUST 10 years old my mom and her friend told me to grow BOOBS AT 10 or no boys will like me. Even since then when it’s hot I refused to take off my hoodie and my mom asked me WHY like seriously? This insecurity is a sunken scar within my soul it’s too deep to bring it up to surface to heal. Even in the media and worst in porn they show women with big boobs

@GummyDrop That’s good that you’re doing something about it. Definitely discuss it with your doctor. You’ve been brave and open to share this with us, so that’s a sign that you want to do something about it!

@Iona Barker Yes it was a bad idea to go to porn to see big boobs and that what I need if I wanted to man and then comparing I know that place is so false.

So your telling me to focus on smaller chest people? It does feel like a spotlight on me

@GummyDrop No, I’m not saying that. I’m just saying your perspective might be skewed that everyone looks different than you do.

@Zippedup So what about the spotlight thing I feel like teachers notice and feel bad or sum

@GummyDrop It gets better as you get older. Most people are worried about themselves. If teachers are really looking at your chest, that sounds pretty concerning!

@Zippedup I don’t know if they are I’m pretty sure they aren’t and it’s in my head like “what if they noticed”

@Zippedup It’s just in my head like if they had a bad day so they’re mean I take it as “omg they’re treating me differently cause I have small boobs” I doubt it but it’s a thought this shit exhausting