MatthewKester
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alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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I assume you probably have rocd right? This is going to be super hard, but try to cut off contact. If you remain in contact, its going to be sooo much harder to move on. Process things at your own pace, and know that the breakup happened for a reason. There's nothing that could've changed to make it not happen, because it was going to happen regardless. Eliminate the "what its," they'll drive ya crazy (I speak from experience). Give yourself compassion and time. Make sure you do things you love doing, but let yourself feel whatever and don't use anything as a distraction to avoid your feelings. Good luck ❤ I hope you're feeling okay about everything
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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Thank you so much for taking the time to give me advice. This is really helpful 🙏❤️
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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I hope from your experiences you are okay 😊
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior You're welcome 😊. I'm glad I could help, just trying to prevent ya from going through what I did. Its still hard, as he and I had a conversation the other day. But I am looking to the future ❤
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 It's tough 😢. But we are in very good terms and mature enough that we are able to still be friends you know. That helps
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior That's very good to hear!:)
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 Hey how are you doing?
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior Right now I am currently feeling a little triggered from one of my other themes but I am trying my best to work through it :) how are you doing? Have things been better for ya?
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 Ah I am sorry that hear that 😭. The fight against OCD isn't easy. I am doing okay, struggling abit and feeling quite down, but pushing through hey. Want to follow me on insta or something to catch up?
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 I'm sorry that was probably innapropriate
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior Oh you're totally okay!:) my ig is on my profile on here. I don't really like to communicate outside of the app though
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 Oh okay I understand that no worries ☺️
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 You paint nails that's cool! Does it help you not think of OCD?
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior I do!:) I have been doing them for years. I just like doing them because its something that makes me happy 😊 sometimes the ocd tries to get me to not do things I like to do because I'm "undeserving" of happiness 🤷♀️
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 Oh that's wonderful 😌 they look amazing. And yes I know very well what you're describing about OCD trying to tell you you're 'undeserving of happiness' it's quite a big part in my OCD struggles as well. It isn't easy to deal with wow. Sometimes I just say "fuck it" and do stuff anyway but wow it's not easy, and that method isn't always reliable
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior Thank you! :) I'm probably going to do a new set tonight, as I've had these ones for like two weeks. I get bored easily haha! Yeah it is very unfortunate to feel like this, its something I've been dealing with for over 10 years. Something that helps me snap out of it is planning something fun for the weekend and knowing that I did it for myself, and that I am deserving. And planning little "me dates" :)
MatthewKesterMatthewKester
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@alexisrae1999 Aww that's so adorable wow
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@OCD warrior I try :). Taking myself out on dates makes me feel more secure in being by myself
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