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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 6y
Oh that is DEFINITELY some textbook compulsion
I have ROCD and I feel the need to confess all my doubts about my relationship to even the old lady at the bus stop. My therapist and I have been working on having a "Small chained fence" with family members. You stay on your side and they stay on theres, it's a healthy way to set up a boundary and not ruin a relationship because of all the confessing. It seems like you love your mom and your sister and you can be vulnerable with them maybe that's why you can confess so easily
I feel you 100% I do the same to my mom, dad and boyfriend I've just barley started trying to stop
It’s really hard. I feel the need to be “perfect” by confessing everything. I know that doesn’t make sense, because if I have to confess then I’m not perfect. Yet, I feel it’s a way to right my wrongs. My therapist says we all make mistakes, but I have a hard time with the fact that I can’t be perfect. Sorry, I know this sounds egotistical... I guess it’s all or nothing thinking.
Thank you for the visual of a chain linked fence. It used to be much worse when I was a teenager. I do feel more comfortable with them. My mom understands, but she and my sister both say, “Do you think you need to talk to your Dr. about your medication?” Not in a mean way, but I guess they see the irrationality of my confessions.
:). I'm a teenager and yes its still is shitty ? Continue to use that visual and keep your confessions on your side of the fence just to prevent damage or extreme annoyance in your relationships. It hurts when anyone you love suggests medication. It makes me feel weak, and "out of control". Medication can help manage issues (SOMETIMES) but unfortunately it can't make Any form of mental illness go away completely. Thank your mom and sister for the recommendation but you know what's best for you.
I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
I can't stop confessing! I have this urge to dump on him every thought and wrong doing I've ever had and its destroying me! Im worried it'll destroy us too. When we started dating I stole a story from a friend to make myself look cool which was pathetic. But its the only time I remember doing anything like this.
Does anyone feel the urge to confess secrets even though they’re not yours to share? My husband told me about a traumatic event he had and trusts me to keep the secret. It has NOTHING to do with me at all. And my brain is making me feel like I need or want to tell someone. I want to be trustworthy and my brain is making me feel like I’m not because of this obsession. It’s so confusing because I know I don’t need to but I feel like I “want to” because of the OCD anxiety? And the feeling of wanting to makes me feel more anxious and like a terrible person. I have confessed literally everything to my mom about my thoughts so she’s my safe person. And I had an emotionally abusive dad (probably how I got OCD at a young age - like 8 years old) that has now passed away. So confiding in her even with intrusive thoughts and messed up shit was safe for me. Does my brain feel like I need to tell her just because she’s my safe person? I hate the feeling of me “wanting” to tell at all too and can’t tell if it’s real and it’s making me feel like a horrible person. I literally have no secrets myself. His mom knows and so do I. So I’m not the only one that knows. But why is my brain doing this? It’s spiraling me out and has been for a few days. But I want to keep the secret because it’s HIS and it doesn’t affect me in any way. I mean sure I feel bad for him - but it’s from his past before we even met? Someone please help me rationalize why I feel these things and why it’s so confusing to know if you actually “want” to do something or if it’s OCD? It’s causing a deep anxiety pit in my stomach and has been for days now.
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