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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 6y
Oh that is DEFINITELY some textbook compulsion
I have ROCD and I feel the need to confess all my doubts about my relationship to even the old lady at the bus stop. My therapist and I have been working on having a "Small chained fence" with family members. You stay on your side and they stay on theres, it's a healthy way to set up a boundary and not ruin a relationship because of all the confessing. It seems like you love your mom and your sister and you can be vulnerable with them maybe that's why you can confess so easily
I feel you 100% I do the same to my mom, dad and boyfriend I've just barley started trying to stop
It’s really hard. I feel the need to be “perfect” by confessing everything. I know that doesn’t make sense, because if I have to confess then I’m not perfect. Yet, I feel it’s a way to right my wrongs. My therapist says we all make mistakes, but I have a hard time with the fact that I can’t be perfect. Sorry, I know this sounds egotistical... I guess it’s all or nothing thinking.
Thank you for the visual of a chain linked fence. It used to be much worse when I was a teenager. I do feel more comfortable with them. My mom understands, but she and my sister both say, “Do you think you need to talk to your Dr. about your medication?” Not in a mean way, but I guess they see the irrationality of my confessions.
:). I'm a teenager and yes its still is shitty ? Continue to use that visual and keep your confessions on your side of the fence just to prevent damage or extreme annoyance in your relationships. It hurts when anyone you love suggests medication. It makes me feel weak, and "out of control". Medication can help manage issues (SOMETIMES) but unfortunately it can't make Any form of mental illness go away completely. Thank your mom and sister for the recommendation but you know what's best for you.
i’ve been dealing with this “thing” since i was 15. (i’m 23 now) if i have a bad memory that i have done when i was really young or just an intrusive thought i feel like i need to tell my mom or boyfriend. it’s been on and off ever since but since January hit it’s been an everyday thing about the littlest things. mostly about my relationship. an example is i was talking to someone random at my job and we were talking about taxes and when im in deep thought or just thinking i do a thing where i bite my lip (not in the sexual way) and i had a thought when it happened “was that sexual?” and i felt like i did something wrong and i went for a while thinking that until i told my boyfriend about it. or like my ex’s face has popped up in my head in the most inappropriate times and i feel the need that i have to tell him. (my ex was not a good person) i feel like im a prisoner in my head everyday, trying to justify thoughts or remind myself that its just a thought. i didnt know that this was or could be a form of ocd. it runs in my family but i’ve just never considered it being this. i always called it anxiety or depression but i always felt like it is more than that.
I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?
I often feel like i did something wrong even tho i am positive i didn’t, my boyfriend and i have been together for like 6 months and i’ve been completely loyal to him the whole time but recently i’ve been feeling the need to confess that i cheated on him even tho i didn’t and there’s absolutely no proof that i did something even close, i don’t talk to other men and if i do my boyfriend has full access to my phone and it’s usually a friend or me asking a simple question but i still feel the need to confess even tho i’ve done nothing wrong🥲 someone please help it’s so confusing
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