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I am 25 and I have never been in a romantic relationship. At first I put it off for school, then I got a panic disorder and didn’t think any guy would want to deal with me. Then I told myself that since my anxiety is getting better maybe I would start dating…then I got ocd 😑. Honestly though, even if I had perfect mental health I would still be afraid. I think I waited too long and now the idea of a relationship (or losing my virginity… sorry for the tmi 😂) is terrifying.
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Im in a similar situation, I just turned 21. I can really relate to you on A LOT on that. Thank you so much for sharing. It really was not tmi, I’m so glad you were comfortable to share ❤️ I’ve been trying to step out of comfort zone recently … or at least I decided I should. I think I’ll download bumble or something (I refused at first when my therapist recommended but I might do it with my friends)
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@krisbliss Ya give it a try! I did before my ocd got bad but I quickly learned that for me, meeting someone online wasn’t the greatest fit (it made me too anxious). That is not meant to discourage you from trying it though! If you ever want to make an extra friend that you can vent to on the topic or ocd don’t be afraid to ask! 🤗🙂
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@Have a sunflower🌻 That’s how I felt too! I felt like I’d want to meet them In person. But I could be wrong since I’ve never tried it. Also, that’s so nice of you, and honestly if you want to then I’d love to be friends and vent to each other 😭😅 thank you ❤️
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@krisbliss Okay! Did you want to use Snapchat? I wish they would make like a private chat room on here for one or more friends to talk. 🤔🤷🏼♀️
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@Have a sunflower🌻 I wish they had that too!!! We can use Snapchat :) or Instagram messaging is good too. My phone storage is full so I don’t have Snapchat at the moment and I don’t know if I have room to download it 😭 do you have Instagram? The account I use for stuff like this is called krisblisssss
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@krisbliss Sure! Are you ok with me just using my main account? It’s pretty small because I don’t use social media too often or post frequently haha.
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@Have a sunflower🌻 Of course no worries! It’s nice of your to ask though ☺️ thank you!!!
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@krisbliss Great! My account name is ash_white_23 Let me know if you have trouble finding it!
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@Have a sunflower🌻 I got your request ! :)
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100% terrified here! You're not alone.
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Thank you for sharing :) it’s relieving to hear that other people can relate, but I’m still so sorry you’re going through it! Looking back on my life I’m definitely not in how much anxiety influenced my decisions and relationships 😢 new thing to work on I guess
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@krisbliss **noticing
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Let's just normalize being single lol
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I like that. I fully agree with you. Thank you !!!!!!!!! What is this pressure
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I do!
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Okay it’s nice to see I’m not alone.. sorry you have to go through that though! It makes me sad I feel like I’ve wasted my life
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@krisbliss You haven't wasted your life. Everyone's journey is different. It's very easy to idealise someone else's life or relationship, but usually we only see what they portray to the world and not the hard life stuff.
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@Bailey253 You’re totally right :) I try to remind myself of the truth, my thoughts and feelings automatically go the other way though. Something new to work on in therapy I guess 😂 thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
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I’m scared but for some dark reasons
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I’m sorry to hear that :/ if you want to share Im all ears, but you don’t have to :) I hope you feel better soon ❤️
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@krisbliss Thank you I’m just scared that I’m gonna get with someone and I find out that they’re not who I expected and that they’ll abuse me :(
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@Amari01 I’ve actually had similar fears, but they’re pretty brief for me and don’t develop into full blown obsessions. Maybe ERP will help you for this fear too!!
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@Amari01 I’m also very afraid of my partner hurting me (not physically though). I know it’s terrifying when ocd convinces you that you’re going to be a victim and you won’t be able to cope when it happens. Best wishes and hugs.
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Okay, just wanna start by saying that I don’t have ROCD. I have perfectionism OCD, and I get intrusive thoughts that no one will like me, I’ll lose all my friends, I’ll be alone for life, etc. if I don’t have things “just right.” I feel like every time I like someone, my OCD just gets worse cause if I don’t perform compulsions, I feel like I have no chance with him. Your handwriting wasn’t smooth? Guess your love life won’t be either. The volume of your phone was too low? Guess your chances with him are too. Failed to draw your graph perfectly symmetrical? Guess what else you’ll fail at. It’s honestly exhausting, and that it isn’t even it. I feel like I tend to fixate on my crushes also. I wanna be 100% sure they’re a good fit before making a move, and that’s really problematic cause there’s just no way to know. And even if I deem that they’re a good guy, I STILL won’t do anything cause I always expect the worst! What if the first impression that I make is so bad that he wants nothing to do with me? I put so much pressure on myself to get him to like me back that I’m terrified to make a move. I’m so focused on the prospect of a second convo that I don’t even want to have the first convo! Like rn, there’s this dude that caught my eye. He’s a senior in high school, while I’m a junior. I’m taking AP bio, and he’s taking AP chem—both are 1.5 periods, so I see him in the cafe and during the passing period (we leave the cafe halfway through the lunch period). I purposely plant myself next to him in the halls during the passing period but haven’t worked up the courage to talk to him. He’s single, I don’t have any classes with him this year, he’ll be at college next year, we follow each other on instagram, and my friends have told me that he’s nice (and keeps to himself), so there’s minimal risk in trying to talk to him. Thing is though, every time I think about introducing myself, I just imagine all the ways that it can go wrong. What if he hates me? What if my first impression is actually good and we become friends, but he doesn’t like me back? What if I tell him I like him over messages, and he screenshots my text and posts it on his instagram story? I don’t know what to do. I know that high school is kinda early and that I still have time to figure things out. I’m just worried that I still won’t have things figured out when I need to. Any advice or personal experience would be welcome and greatly appreciated!
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Sort of a rant that probably sounds stupid and I’m kind of seeking reassurance… I’m still a relatively young teenager so I know I’ve got time to work all this out but I’m really confused about my sexuality. (I’m a girl) I’ve never been in a relationship (I don’t know if I want to be which is why I’m writing this) and sometimes I feel like I’ve never really had a crush and I just convinced myself that I did because I wanted to feel normal… but then maybe that’s false memory ocd??? I don’t really want to be in a long term relationship with a guy and idk about girls but idk if that’s just cos of my age??? Some days I hate the idea of ever dating, marrying or doing anything sexual. Other days I wish my mental / physical health was better so I could date someone! Everything I feel goes up and down a lot and idk why!? I have bad sexual intrusive thoughts that make me unsure whether anything that I think is real and my parents recently split up after not getting along for a few years. I don’t know if it’s my age, my ocd, my parents bad relationship, my sexuality (am I attracted to guys, girls? Am I ace!!!!???) Or something else but I have no idea who I am and I KNOW I’m young and have time but some other perspectives might help???? Can I ever be in a relationship if I have ocd like this? Also I’m really struggling not to compulsively seek reassurance and I don’t know who to talk to about all this irl I know I probably shouldn’t share this with random strangers but also idek if I care anymore 😭
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i’m so scared to get into a relationship because i think i’m a avoidant attachment… like i have a fear of losing myself and being too attached to where i won’t love myself but love them more than i love myself… like i’m thinking about the guy i like and thinking about the opportunity to be with him but something tells me i’m gonna back away because of my ocd… i wanna love myself before i get into a relationship… especially this generation of relationships get me really anxious.. it’s like i wanna be in a relationship but i also don’t because of losing myself… i wanna have confidence in myself and like the person and have a relationship with God at the same time… i think i’m doing a compulsion which isn’t good because my ocd themes keep switching
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