krisbliss
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Fear and Hope 🌼Fear and Hope 🌼
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I am 25 and I have never been in a romantic relationship. At first I put it off for school, then I got a panic disorder and didn’t think any guy would want to deal with me. Then I told myself that since my anxiety is getting better maybe I would start dating…then I got ocd 😑. Honestly though, even if I had perfect mental health I would still be afraid. I think I waited too long and now the idea of a relationship (or losing my virginity… sorry for the tmi 😂) is terrifying.
krisblisskrisbliss
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Im in a similar situation, I just turned 21. I can really relate to you on A LOT on that. Thank you so much for sharing. It really was not tmi, I’m so glad you were comfortable to share ❤️ I’ve been trying to step out of comfort zone recently … or at least I decided I should. I think I’ll download bumble or something (I refused at first when my therapist recommended but I might do it with my friends)
Fear and Hope 🌼Fear and Hope 🌼
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@krisbliss Ya give it a try! I did before my ocd got bad but I quickly learned that for me, meeting someone online wasn’t the greatest fit (it made me too anxious). That is not meant to discourage you from trying it though! If you ever want to make an extra friend that you can vent to on the topic or ocd don’t be afraid to ask! 🤗🙂
krisblisskrisbliss
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@Have a sunflower🌻 That’s how I felt too! I felt like I’d want to meet them In person. But I could be wrong since I’ve never tried it. Also, that’s so nice of you, and honestly if you want to then I’d love to be friends and vent to each other 😭😅 thank you ❤️
Fear and Hope 🌼Fear and Hope 🌼
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@krisbliss Okay! Did you want to use Snapchat? I wish they would make like a private chat room on here for one or more friends to talk. 🤔🤷🏼♀️
krisblisskrisbliss
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@Have a sunflower🌻 I wish they had that too!!! We can use Snapchat :) or Instagram messaging is good too. My phone storage is full so I don’t have Snapchat at the moment and I don’t know if I have room to download it 😭 do you have Instagram? The account I use for stuff like this is called krisblisssss
Fear and Hope 🌼Fear and Hope 🌼
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@krisbliss Sure! Are you ok with me just using my main account? It’s pretty small because I don’t use social media too often or post frequently haha.
krisblisskrisbliss
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@Have a sunflower🌻 Of course no worries! It’s nice of your to ask though ☺️ thank you!!!
Fear and Hope 🌼Fear and Hope 🌼
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@krisbliss Great! My account name is ash_white_23 Let me know if you have trouble finding it!
krisblisskrisbliss
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@Have a sunflower🌻 I got your request ! :)
Sound LotusSound Lotus
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100% terrified here! You're not alone.
krisblisskrisbliss
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Thank you for sharing :) it’s relieving to hear that other people can relate, but I’m still so sorry you’re going through it! Looking back on my life I’m definitely not in how much anxiety influenced my decisions and relationships 😢 new thing to work on I guess
krisblisskrisbliss
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@krisbliss **noticing
SarahtonenSarahtonen
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Let's just normalize being single lol
krisblisskrisbliss
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I like that. I fully agree with you. Thank you !!!!!!!!! What is this pressure
AnonymousAnonymous
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I do!
krisblisskrisbliss
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Okay it’s nice to see I’m not alone.. sorry you have to go through that though! It makes me sad I feel like I’ve wasted my life
AnonymousAnonymous
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@krisbliss You haven't wasted your life. Everyone's journey is different. It's very easy to idealise someone else's life or relationship, but usually we only see what they portray to the world and not the hard life stuff.
krisblisskrisbliss
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@Bailey253 You’re totally right :) I try to remind myself of the truth, my thoughts and feelings automatically go the other way though. Something new to work on in therapy I guess 😂 thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
mari01mari01
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I’m scared but for some dark reasons
krisblisskrisbliss
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I’m sorry to hear that :/ if you want to share Im all ears, but you don’t have to :) I hope you feel better soon ❤️
mari01mari01
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@krisbliss Thank you I’m just scared that I’m gonna get with someone and I find out that they’re not who I expected and that they’ll abuse me :(
krisblisskrisbliss
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@Amari01 I’ve actually had similar fears, but they’re pretty brief for me and don’t develop into full blown obsessions. Maybe ERP will help you for this fear too!!
LisaP99LisaP99
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@Amari01 I’m also very afraid of my partner hurting me (not physically though). I know it’s terrifying when ocd convinces you that you’re going to be a victim and you won’t be able to cope when it happens. Best wishes and hugs.
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