I’ve talked about my rocd before, and how I’m so done with it. But can someone give me some insight as to why. Why does my ocd make me think I can’t or I’m not allowed to be in a relationship. I’m 15 going on to be 16 in the spring, and it’s not like I’m not allow d or something by my parents. They don’t mind at all as long as I’m being treated ok. But since discovering my ocd in the first place I realized about my rocd as well. It didn’t have as bad affect on me when I was younger because I didn’t care and I wasn’t where I am now, but now I’m at the age where I’m getting asked out or I’m becoming friends with these guys and I can’t even go on a date with them or hang out because I just keep getting intrusive thoughts. There getting worse, it’s causing me nausea, and it’s overall driving me crazy. I just don’t understand why my brain thinks all these negative bad things, like I haven’t even been able to give it a shot. I don’t have a nocd therapist due to my location, and due to covid I can currently see a local therapist for a professional opinion, so I just don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing. I’m just so tired of never being able to chose what I want to do. I feel like my decisions at this point aren’t my decisions there all up to my ocd. I just hate it.

I really like this advice. I just don’t know how you get through it. It like tears me apart. You must be very strong to handle that. Do you have any tips to make it an easier?

@LoveyDuck Something I do when my intrusive thoughts just get too bad is fully acknowledging the thought ( Ik it sound impossible) and then visualizing it disappearing. It can take a lil bit to figure out what visualization works best for you but what I do is imagine all my thoughts as like a black orb and as a breathe in I take away some of the darkness and when I breathe out I picture it turning more like a blue color until the whole orb is blue. I know that kinda sounds confusing so let me know if I can reword it better for you.

@Shannn No that does make sense , thank you. I really appreciate it. If you have any more tips, the more the better!

@LoveyDuck Try reading threads on Reddit about ocd and intrusive thoughts, a lot of people share things that helped them cope and it can help you kinda figure out what might work for you. Some people share their own stories on there too so just be careful to not accidentally trigger yourself.

@LoveyDuck And just remember it’s a long process with a lot of trial and error you just gotta stick it out. Ocd always tries to keep you at home or wherever you feel the safest by basically scaring you into staying home so it might help to keep that in mind the next time you do go out