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I have trouble with feeling guilty about actions too sometimes, normally my OCD bothers me more about mental things I think though. I have trouble differentiating between if something is actually wrong, or if it's just according to my OCD that it's wrong. Most of the time its just my OCD, but I constantly ask for reassurance from my wife, but I know when it comes to OCD we shouldn't seek reassurance, but it can be truly difficult to function sometimes without having that reassurance. I'm sorry I'm not helping much, but just know I can relate to how you feel Have a sunflower. I hope you have a good night filled with peace though friend. God bless!
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Thank you so much for your kind words! Yes, this definitely helps knowing I’m not the only one that has a hard time differentiating what my ocd thinks is bad vs what normal people would actually think is bad.
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I suppose part of the concern is that I can try to tell myself that I made a mistake and I’ll learn from it and try to do better in the future, but what if that is reinforcing that the action I did was bad when it is actually considered normal? I don’t want to allow my ocd to convince me that a possibly normal action is bad because that will just make it more difficult for me down the road to live a happier and more normal life.
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I can completely relate to what you're saying! Specifically when it comes to saying specific words or phrases, my OCD will tell me "nope, that's a bad word to say" so I'll stop saying it, but then I'll try to look at it logically "are there other people around me saying that word?" If so I'll tell myself "it's okay, you can say that word because other people are saying it too, so obviously my OCD is lying to me about it being bad, it's just a normal word". I realize though that this "solution" honestly probably SHOULDN'T be used because it leads to the problem you're talking about how it can start reinforcing that the specific thing is "bad" even though it actually isn't bad at all. So, honestly my recommendation is to NOT do what I mentioned above. Instead try your very best (even though it will probably be very difficult at first) to just simply ignore the OCD telling you that you made a mistake. The more you ignore it, the less it will bother you. It might take time though, like possibly days before it stops bothering you, but it will be worth it once you learn to do that, I really think it will help you. :) I'm still working on it too though, but I really think it's the best course of action in this case. I REALLY hope this isn't bad advice though, I wouldn't want to misguide you. I would say you should also ask your therapist or psychiatrist too about this (if you currently have one). I hope you'll have a great night filled with peace though friend. God bless!
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@Drew777 Thank you! You too! This is a great perspective and do not worry about misguiding me! It is helpful knowing I am not the only one with the same issues!
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Don't let your OCD convince you that something is wrong when it is actually completely normal. I think whatever it is that you're worried about IS honestly completely normal. (even though I don't know what it is specifically) The reason I think this is just simply because I've been through this same thing so many times, so I can relate so much.
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Haha ya it probably is like that for all of us who suffer from moral scrupulosity! It is hard to look at your own situation with this kind of insight so it’s nice to come one here and allow others to see the clarity you currently lack. Thanks for the help!
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@Have a sunflower🌻 Yeah, anytime! :) I'm glad we're all part of a community where we have the opportunity to help each other with our different OCD issues we face!
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Like real event ocd?
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Idk I’m not very familiar with real event ocd. I just did something that is definitely wrong according to my moral scrupulosity ocd and I am not sure if that is just considered wrong to me or if the majority of society would agree that it’s wrong.
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@Have a sunflower🌻 Can real event ocd be about something you just did or does it have to be from a long time ago?
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@Have a sunflower🌻 It can be any time. The problem is there is really no ultimate right or wrong, everything is based on opinion. And the world isn’t that black and white- lots of things are somewhere in the middle. The only thing you can do here is not ruminate on it. Let the thoughts and feelings come in and don’t engage with them. Over time they won’t really bother you anymore.
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@Anonymous Thanks for the advice!
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