Jbgys543
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Carl CornettCarl Cornett
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You don’t have to share anything you’re not ready to share.
DaletheWhale DaletheWhale
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I compulsively shared my so-ocd with a lot of people and it didn’t go over well
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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I feel like I have to tho to be happy and enjoy my life with this guy :/
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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Yeah he's right. You're confessing if you feel the urge to share. Did that with my ex and it turned him off completely lol so please don't do it!
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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@alexisrae1999 I’m sorry that happened to you :/ but I’m scared that’s what’s gonna happen but I feel like if I see him I won’t be able to enjoy my time with him if I don’t tell him
alexisrae1999alexisrae1999
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@Jbgys543 That's the confessing part talking. You absolutely don't need to confess! Do erp to that :)
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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@alexisrae1999 Thank you so much! Honestly I’m starting to feel a bit better because I told him what my ocd is making me go through but I didn’t tell him what my real event ocd is about :)
Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
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Why would he need to know?
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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I feel like he would need to know if we are dating :/
Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
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@Jbgys543 But why?
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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@Anonymous I just feel like he would need to know everything about me, but I’m scared to tell him. But I’ve never really been in a relationship before so I don’t know if people who are dating tell the other person everything about them :/
Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
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@Jbgys543 No, they don’t. You will never know everything about each other, and it’s unnecessary. Things in the past are not who you are today anyway. He can know a lot about you and know what kind of person you are and love you without knowing these things. I understand, I have struggled with this too, but one confession turns into many and it can become destructive.
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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@Anonymous True, thank you so much! 😊
John-PaulJohn-Paul
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Coming from a teenage guy I would say if he doesn’t accept you with all of your problems you should let him go anyway. That will tell you how much he really loves you.
John-PaulJohn-Paul
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So if you tell him and he gets annoyed or offended or anything like that it’s his problem and he doesn’t care about you enough to see past your problems.
John-PaulJohn-Paul
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I’ve struggled with the same thing. Of feeling like because of what I struggle with people might not accept me or want to be around me. When what I’ve found is that the people who love me the most love me anyway. And all of that worrying and guilt about what someone might say was all for nothing. So live in the light. You will feel a lot better. Freedom is worth a lot more than any boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s what I’ve learned when I think about having a girlfriend.
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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@John-Paul I’m sorry to hear you went through all of that :/ but thank you so much for the advice!! 😊
John-PaulJohn-Paul
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I’m not saying he needs to know I’m just saying that if you feel guilty and you are going to always feel bad around him then you should probably say something and I think you would find that he will take it in a sympathetic way if he really does care about you. If it isn’t weighing you down then don’t but if it is imprisoning you by not telling him then you probably should.
Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
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I don’t advise this…. I’ve struggled with this before and confessing is a compulsion and it makes it worse. There’s no reason for anyone to know things about your past.
John-PaulJohn-Paul
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@Anonymous It depends on whether to struggle with that specific compulsion
Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
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@John-Paul I think if you feel like a really strong urge and have anxiety around it and that this would provide relief it is most likely breeding grounds for a compulsion. This is how it all started for me. One confession lead to tons.
Jbgys543Jbgys543
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@Anonymous Thank you for all of the advice! 😊
John-PaulJohn-Paul
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I agree
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