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You have to forgive yourself for what happened even if it was your fault and you messed up. Speaking from experience this is easier said than done, but possible.
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How do i know i have the right to forgive myself though.
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@Anon123 There’s no “right” to forgive yourself. You have to make to choice to do it, or at least want to do it. Even if the person you hurt doesn’t forgive you. A lot of what I’ve learned about forgiveness comes from Tara Brach and her self titled podcast. Episode name: “Part 1 - Forgiving Ourselves and Others from Aversive Blame (2019-04-17)”. It’s hard to explain why it’s okay to forgive ourselves without leaning into some spirituality or deeper meaning in life. I always combat my unforgiveness with reminding myself that what is done is done. I’ve apologized and it is over. If I continue to be tortured by it, I will only give it more power and extend the effect it’s having on my life. Time to move on and learn from it.
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All the time I have this
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Does anyone mind telling me what exactly real event ocd is. I’ve heard different things.
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Real event OCD is when something happened and you obsess about the event. For example, a mistake that you made that you feel is terrible, that you should get the death penalty for meanwhile people around you are saying it’s nothing to worry about.
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@Anon123 Oh ok. Perfect thank you
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That last part was spot on. There's lots of podcasts about self forgiveness on Spotify. 💛
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Anon, keep saying to yourself that you may have done a mistake or may have not and you may pay for it or may not. You have to sit with the anxiety of 'really accepting' the possibility of making a mistake and not having any way to amend it. Sit with the anxiety.
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So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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What to do when we feel guilty about our ocd checking and compulsive behaviors?
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I’m currently struggling with guilt from checking OCD. By this I mean, I feel guilty and shameful by my OCD checking because I feel as that was immoral and wrong and I really don’t know what to do. How can I fight this?
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