Happy Thursday night everyone:) what's uppp. How's everyone doing? Just a reminder that everyone moves at different places. No need to compare your progress to someone else's. Or your life for that matter. Keep doing you and the progress will come naturally. You deserve all the best 😊

I understand where you're coming from when you say that you're feeling quite sad that you're not able help everyone. I often feel like that too! I came from a household where I was the messenger and the glue that held a few people together, so that factors into it. I'm not sure if youre the same...:) Your worth does not depend on saving everyone. That's something I need to take into consideration as well ❤

I like it too!:) I have showed signs of ocd for over 15 years, I'm currently getting treatment (finally 🥳), but because of other circumstances I have not been the best lately. But I am getting there, that's how I look at it. Progress is progress 😊. I'm really happy that you're feeling some relief, I hope you continue to feel it even more 💗

@alexisrae1999 Congrats on getting treatment for your OCD! :) I haven't been the best lately either, but I'm working on it... I really should get treatment myself, but I've just been scared to, I'm afraid a therapist won't understand me or that they'll think I'm lying about my OCD or something. I feel like I can relate to being the glue that holds everyone together too, at least to some extent. I felt like I was the peace maker between my mom and my sister when they would start to fight I would be the one who stepped in to break up the argument normally... not to say it in a way of that i was so special or something, I just never wanted to fight if it could be avoided really. And I'm still that way even now kind of... I just want everyone to be happy. But i know that I can't save everyone, and I know I need to stop trying so hard to do that all the time. Thanks for talking with me, even though I replied late, so I'm sorry. Goodnight though friend. :)

@Drew777 Thank you!:) I understand being afraid of therapy. You'll get to the point where you feel like you need it 😂 I got there. Thats how I felt, except in more ways than one. Its okay to not help everyone. You're not responsible for someone else's mental health, especially your parents! Learned that late :) Hope all is well

@alexisrae1999 Hi again! I just have some things on my mind right now, but overall I'm doing fairly well. I'm really glad that its Friday! :) How are you doing today alexisrae1999? :) I hope you are well too. You're welcome! And yeah, I get what you're saying, I just keep jumping back and forth on the decision to get therapy. I'm scared I won't explain my OCD correctly to a therapist and that they won't be able to help me in the proper way that I need help. But you're right, I'm sure I'll get to that point where I really am ready to get therapy. And I know I'm not responsible for everyone's mental health, it's more like I just want to help if I am able, and I AM able, lol. So, I push myself to help even when I realize I'm starting to feel emotionally drained and mentally exhausted. It's difficult for me to say no to someone, even when they're not specifically asking me, like on this app. But I suppose I just need to learn when its time to put my phone down and just focus on me and my mental health.

@Drew777 I'm doing pretty well today! Im happy you are as well:). Yes eventually it'll become too much to handle for you tbh and you'll be like omg I need therapy NOW 😂. You don't need to explain your ocd in its entirety and perfect as well. That's an ocd thing ahaha You are able to help, but you also have to draw the line where if you are helping so much that your own needs aren't being met, it may be wise to take a step back and focus on yourself

@alexisrae1999 I'm glad you're doing pretty well today too Alexis! :) by the way, I looked at your profile and I saw that you have a cat! :D Your cat is so adorable! You should post a picture of your cat on the app for #flooffriday! Unless you already did and I just didn't notice, lol. You're so right! I just need to take the leap of faith and get help, I have to stop waiting around... I've been contemplating getting therapy for weeks now... but how expensive is it to get therapy? I read some articles on it, but the prices sound like they really vary, especially with insurance (or the lack there of) as a factor. I need to work on drawing that line, and to learn to make myself take a step back when I'm feeling overwhelmed. Thanks for your advice, your a very nice person, it's been great talking with you. :) I hope we can continue to talk on this app.

@Drew777 Yes her name is Gypsy. She's really sweet :) I did post her earlier actually 😊 Without insurance therapy can be quite expensive. I am doing telehealth currently :). I'd recommend sticking with therapists who are in network so you don't have to pay $100+ a session I see that you're a christian. I'm not christian myself, but i do know that christians tend to take on a lot of responsibility as they feel like they have to do that in order to be a good child of god. I recommend the book Boundaries by henry cloud and john townsend, could help ya:)

@alexisrae1999 My family has a cat named Grace, she likes to scratch people though so I don't go around her very much. She also spends a lot of time outside, so she disappears a lot. This will probably sound like a stupid question, but what exactly is an "in network" therapist? Do they typically charge less or something? And is telehealth just talking to a therapist on the phone? Like not a video call? I realize I'm asking questions that probably sound really dumb. I really don't want to pay much if I don't have to... I mean I'll pay whatever is needed so I can get the proper help, but I'm always afraid of wasting money, afraid that I'll go broke... I'm exaggerating, and I know I am, but it's just a fear of mine. Yes, I am a Christian. :) and yes, I'd say I do take on a good deal of responsibility, it might be tied to trying to be a "good child of God" to some extent, but I think it's also just me seeking friendship. I really like making friends, I like to meet all kinds of different people and see what different walks of life they come from. Everyone is so unique, it's so cool to me to see how we're all the same in a lot of ways but at the same time to see how we all look at things so differently so that we can offer a large range of perspectives on various issues. I don't know, maybe I'm thinking too much about it, lol. Thanks for recommending those books, I am interested to find out more about them. :) I've read an OCD book before, it was a long time ago now though but it was called "Brain Lock", I can't remember who wrote it off the top of my head though... I have the book still somewhere in the attic I think... Anyway, I wouldn't say I necessarily recommend it though, I can't remember anything from it that was super eye opening by any means, it was just kind of interesting though.

@Drew777 Aww maybe she needs her nails trimmed then 😂 In network means that they take your insurance :) no dumb questions here! Telehealth is a video chat option, but most therapists may also do phone calls. That's refreshing to hear!:) yes very nice to get to know everyone here, different perspectives can give ya different insights to things :) I see! I've heard of brain lock:) you should definitely check out boundaries though

Of course. Never an annoyance:) I like doing my video chatting too because its so convenient. Happy you're making friends and yes the book is very relatable:) I'm having a good weekend so far, I hope you're doing the same 😊