Anxiousaddie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
anonymoose anonymoose
- Date posted
- 3y
There’s not exactly a right or wrong answer. I think it depends on your needs as a person. If you are feeling so alone that you are becoming hopeless, it may be best to reach out to someone. If you are isolating yourself in fear and avoidance, it is most likely best to reach out to someone. If you know that you can have the self control to not ask for reassurance while still letting someone into your heart (or, mind), then it’s probably a good idea to reach out to someone. You know yourself best, even when it doesn’t feel like it. If people bring you joy when you’re not having an episode, then it would probably be really helpful to be around people right now. I’ve also felt that it becomes so much easier for me to get out of my head when I push myself to focus on the people around me. I become really self-centered during an episode, but that’s not who I am. I try to remember who I am when I’m not feeling that way, and then I act as accordingly as possible. I do know, though, that I’m extremely lucky to have good friends and family and community. I just highly recommend making sure that the person or people you let see your suffering are capable of being empathetic and of welcoming you into their own hearts.
anonymoose anonymoose
- Date posted
- 3y
I will say, though: if you are thinking of hurting yourself, please reach out to someone. Your life is so valuable, and you should not have to go through this alone. It’s suicide prevention month, and I just think it’s so important that we talk about this stuff all the time. There is hope even when you’re hopeless (trust me, I’ve been there). I truly believe that you are capable of finding companionship. You’re human! You were made for this! We are not wired to be alone; we need support. Support and encouragement and love is not reassurance. You deserve to feel loved because you are!
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
Thank you 😌 I usually talk to my mom about it but she tended to give reassurance in the past. I did give her some articles on reassurance and how its bad for ocd (she wanted to know how to help me best) and now it is soemtimes hard bc I miss the reassurance honestly. 😅 she doesn't always know what to say anymore. She says "maybe, maybe not" but sometimes she says she just isn't sure what to say so she doesn't want to talk. I don't know what she should say either. She is comforting though and always gives me a hug so I at least have that
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
@anonymoose And thank you for that reminder as well. As of right now, I am not in a place of harm but I have felt so hopeless before and tried to reach out. Thank you for caring ❤ it is good to have likeminded people on here
anonymoose anonymoose
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- 3y
@Hopeforthefuture Im glad you have your mom! I think what I’ve found to be so helpful is to truly just appreciate the presence and closeness of another person. I don’t talk about all my thoughts and stuff. I let them know I’m struggling and that their presence helps me get outside of my head a bit. I might explain some of what I’m going through, but I make sure they know that I just want them to listen and don’t expect them to be my therapist or to offer any sort of advice or solution. Just being heard and loved is really helpful!! You’ve got this :)
Lms526Lms526
- Date posted
- 3y
I have found that I have to be careful who I talk to. I have told a few friends about my OCD. A friend who has her own mental health struggles told me this "The first rule of mental health. Learn to differentiate who deserves and explanation, who deserves one answer and who deserves absolutely nothing."
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