Yes. Been married 22 years, together 29 years.
I had undiagnosed ROCD for 2-3 years. Got diagnosed in November and I did therapy here in NOCD. Since then I’ve gotten married and now I’m expecting my first child with the love of my life. There’s still challenging days but nothing like it was before. I’m grateful to experience life with my wife again. I promise it gets better!
What a huge relief to hear! I am marrying the man of my dreams in 6 months & it’s so encouraging to hear this. I start therapy in a few days.
Question. When you were experiencing ROCD, and when the anxiety went away. Did your feelings return for your wife? Most of my anxiety is gone but my feelings still haven’t returned. Are they ever going to return ? Or is this another thing or ROCD? I know I love my bf but I hate not feeling they love. Any advice? Or tips on how you got through it
@LoverGirl Have you done erp?
@camerongrace I just started therapy but I’m still a little confused as to what ERP is
So you felt like erp helped you to function normally in your relationship?
@camerongrace Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I think my ROCD was it’s strongest from proposing to our wedding day. OCD likes to latch onto important dates and plant seeds of doubt and worry so keep pushing if you feel this! You got this!
@LoverGirl Oh I still experience ROCD I’m not cured yet. It’s just different now. I have a better understanding of how OCD works and how to disregard those thoughts and feelings. I still get anxiety but instead of lasting hours or days it only last 5-10 mins :) I still do ERP every day and I still find new ways to improve my overall health and happiness. Your feelings haven’t returned because you probably keep monitoring your feelings around your partner. You can’t anticipate it because it will never come like that. It’s kinda like tickling yourself, you won’t laugh because you are anticipating it but if someone else does it then you’ll laugh because you weren’t expecting it. You aren’t going to feel love ALL the time. That’s not real. You’ll feel bursts of happiness, love, compassion, joy, understanding and empathy just the same way you’ll feel anger, frustration, annoyance and sadness. Sometimes you’ll feel nothing at all! But that’s life! I used to have a very black or white mentality but the truth is that life is 99% grey. I hope this helps. Try to live in the moment and reduce compulsions.
@Just another OCD guy Thank you. This thread really gives me hope
For me it's only gotten better since then and our relationship has really grown because we are so honest to another. I am way more balanced now and that reflects in our relationship . I still have days when it comes back. But I'm incredibly happy and so excited to see what the future holds. Compared to 6 months ago when I broke up with him for a few days because I couldn't cope with anything and felt so unsure of my feelings (ocd).