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I had undiagnosed ROCD for 2-3 years. Got diagnosed in November and I did therapy here in NOCD. Since then I’ve gotten married and now I’m expecting my first child with the love of my life. There’s still challenging days but nothing like it was before. I’m grateful to experience life with my wife again. I promise it gets better!
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What a huge relief to hear! I am marrying the man of my dreams in 6 months & it’s so encouraging to hear this. I start therapy in a few days.
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Question. When you were experiencing ROCD, and when the anxiety went away. Did your feelings return for your wife? Most of my anxiety is gone but my feelings still haven’t returned. Are they ever going to return ? Or is this another thing or ROCD? I know I love my bf but I hate not feeling they love. Any advice? Or tips on how you got through it
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@LoverGirl Have you done erp?
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@camerongrace I just started therapy but I’m still a little confused as to what ERP is
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So you felt like erp helped you to function normally in your relationship?
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@camerongrace Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I think my ROCD was it’s strongest from proposing to our wedding day. OCD likes to latch onto important dates and plant seeds of doubt and worry so keep pushing if you feel this! You got this!
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@LoverGirl Oh I still experience ROCD I’m not cured yet. It’s just different now. I have a better understanding of how OCD works and how to disregard those thoughts and feelings. I still get anxiety but instead of lasting hours or days it only last 5-10 mins :) I still do ERP every day and I still find new ways to improve my overall health and happiness. Your feelings haven’t returned because you probably keep monitoring your feelings around your partner. You can’t anticipate it because it will never come like that. It’s kinda like tickling yourself, you won’t laugh because you are anticipating it but if someone else does it then you’ll laugh because you weren’t expecting it. You aren’t going to feel love ALL the time. That’s not real. You’ll feel bursts of happiness, love, compassion, joy, understanding and empathy just the same way you’ll feel anger, frustration, annoyance and sadness. Sometimes you’ll feel nothing at all! But that’s life! I used to have a very black or white mentality but the truth is that life is 99% grey. I hope this helps. Try to live in the moment and reduce compulsions.
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@Just another OCD guy Thank you. This thread really gives me hope
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Yes. Been married 22 years, together 29 years.
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For me it's only gotten better since then and our relationship has really grown because we are so honest to another. I am way more balanced now and that reflects in our relationship . I still have days when it comes back. But I'm incredibly happy and so excited to see what the future holds. Compared to 6 months ago when I broke up with him for a few days because I couldn't cope with anything and felt so unsure of my feelings (ocd).
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I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
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Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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