eman478
- Date posted
- 4y
ChoSynChoSyn
- Date posted
- 4y
Yes
BigAl15BigAl15
- Date posted
- 4y
Most definitely
CatladyCatlady
- Date posted
- 4y
Oh yes definitely.
girlanongirlanon
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
Definitely yes
eman478eman478
- Date posted
- 4y
Even if l don't feel comfortable telling him , and l don't think he will understand what I'm going through and slow down my recovery
BB94BB94
- Date posted
- 4y
That someone wants you both to get married you said. Do you also want to get married? If you do, yes you must share with them. Do not fear the consequences of sharing about your ocd (assuming you two love each other). They will eventually find out into the marriage anyways, best to just share it now rather than later. Understanding may not happen over night, but hey at least you're not carrying around the burden of not sharing with them. If there's love, understanding will come.
CatladyCatlady
- Date posted
- 4y
That sounds like a tough situation, so maybe you could find a way to explain to him what you’re going through and what you need. Maybe also give him some time to process everything. This is something you and he definitely need to be on the same page about.
ocd.trinocd.trin
- Date posted
- 4y
Yes, I think it would be best to!
Maybe,MaybeNotMaybe,MaybeNot
- Date posted
- 4y
I think it’s a personal choice.
britt.isabellabritt.isabella
- Date posted
- 4y
I think you first have to ask yourself how YOU truly feel. If you love this person and want to spend the rest of your life with them and you trust them and they are a safe person (assuming they are if you want to marry them), then yes - part of being in a relationship is being real and vulnerable. But if you don’t feel the same way about them or you aren’t necessarily ready to commit to that level yet, I think you are allowed to set emotional boundaries and tell them when and if you are ready to make that commitment. Also - you don’t have to divulge everything at once. If you’re unsure how he will react or afraid he’ll slow down your recovery, then you could start by asking him questions like “how would you feel if I had a mental illness?” Or whatever you were comfortable with asking. See how he reacts and if he is understanding, keep going. That does sound hard though - and that is just my opinion - I hope it goes well whatever you decide to do!
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Argaman
- Date posted
- 24w
OCD making me avoid dating
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Anonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 19w
Dating someone with worse OCD
I’ve struggled a lot with mental illness (severe social anxiety, depression, OCD), but have done a lot of work to get to the great place that I’m at now. I feel like a different person compared to how I felt a few years ago. Here’s my question: I started seeing someone really important to me. We’re not official yet, but we’ve been in each others lives for years and it feels like it’s the real deal. He struggles with OCD, and it’s much worse than mine ever was. My question is, do you think this is healthy for me, as someone who has done the work to get to a better place? He’s not in therapy, he’s against medication (I love my meds — they changed my life), and is generally in a different place than I am mentally.
geodrimilis
- Date posted
- 18w
Will a relationship help?
If I manage to get a girlfriend will the ocd go away or will it get worse and be combined with rocd aka “what if I don’t actually like her and want to be with a guy” and then it will all go downhill. If that’s the case I don’t think I should start a relationship because I dont want the girl to go through all that.
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