What if your theme didn’t begin with an intrusive thought? I was google searching about why I was nervous to get into a relationship when I saw posts about the aromantic/asexual spectrum and related to a fair few of the points on them. So it’s less intrusive thoughts and more that there’s evidence for me being my fear? Idk, it’s so bloody confusing. I feel like even if I get over this obsession I’ll never figure out my weird response to relationships

I am having a similar issue, this is the first time I’ve met someone on this all that’s struggling to get into a relationship. Although I can’t help you with the confusion part, although I hope you get better! Sending positive vibes your way!

Mine is kind of similar too except my worry is that I am gay/lesbian. But many people I read about are actually already in relationships whereas I have never even had one.

@Mak46 Yea I can agree, I also have never been in a relationship, due to my ocd. I hope all goes well for you

@LoveyDuck Thanks! Hope all goes well for you too

I've never been in one due to my shyness/no guys were ever really that interested in me. So it's hard for me to out myself out there

@Sarahtonen Yeah same! I have always been super shy and have not had the best self-esteem. So, it has never happened for me which my ocd has attached to

@Mak46 Yeaaaaah having no boys interested in you along with being shy messes u up in your 20s lol gotta love it 🙄

@Sarahtonen Lol yeah it is the best thing ever. Then I start to feel weird about me being in a relationship since it has never happened. Like it's hard for me to picture myself in a relationship sometimes since I feel so shy and awkward a lot. So that doesn't help either

@Mak46 We're the same person haha

@Sarahtonen Lol I guess so. Good to know I'm not alone though. Because that's how I feel a lot of the time with everything.

The fact that you are obsessing about this and it’s causing anxiety all points to this being classic OCD. OCD latches onto things we truly care about or even fears that we have. You are not alone!! ❤️

So true!

I agree

That’s still an intrusive thought if you can’t make it go away. And it’s not evidence. Anyone can come up with “evidence”

True!