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It’s not being not understanding , it’s trying to help you because they are professionals that know reassurance makes it worse and things may trigger people too much.
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You’ll do much better if you’re not on the app to confess, seek reassurance and read other stories anyways! Good luck !
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Sorry to hear that. Was it reassurance seeking? If so is there another way you can phrase it without seeking reassurance?
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Hey it’s happened to me quite a bit with seeking reassurance and getting flagged for it. It’s honestly so frustrating
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Sorry it happened to you too. And it makes my anxiety worse when I'm not allowed to share my OCD tendencies so it's definitely frustrating
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@LovelyNight I know same here. I’m so sorry that happened to you. But just know you are not alone and this community is here for you
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@Just Breathe ❤️ Thanks that's sweet of you. Maybe I'll just take a step back for a little while
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@LovelyNight I completely understand. I try to distance myself from the app sometimes too but my therapist is through here so I have to keep it 🤦🏻♀️
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same!! like i know they're trying to help but.. there was this one thing i really needed to share because i think it would've helped and they removed it :/
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Yeah exactly & just makes me feel worse tbh so I don't think this place is a good fit for me. :/
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The fact that you felt worse after it being deleted plus the need to post something is a compulsion. And even if it's really really hard to go through it's just your brain seeking for reassurance and not getting it and then feeling worse. The goal is to not need to post anything and even if you do not feeling distressed if it's deleted. You got this 💞
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Thanks but then I can't post anything because I want to share my thoughts keeping it inside is toxic for OCD.
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@LovelyNight No, actually it isn't. Thats just what your OCD wants you to think. Just me is right. The app will be much more helpful if you aren't coming on to confess or seek reassurance. Yes, it makes you feel better in the short term. But all it is doing is strengthening the intrusive thought and making your OCD worse. If someone is flagging your posts, they aren't doing it to be mean, they are trying to help you. Giving into your compulsions will only keep you stuck. The only way to break the cycle is to resist doing your compulsions. It won't be easy, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. The fact that you are getting so upset when your posts get deleted is a big clue you were seeking reassurance or confessing. Which are both compulsions.
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@LovelyNight I would recommend posting without posting super specific details and just asking for support and advice on how to deal with the thoughts without getting reassurance
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@Lms526 I totally agree with that. I used to tell my boyfriend all my thoughts but then I realized it didn't change the thoughts or have any long term positive effect. But it did hurt him and that wasn't helpful for either of us. I tell my therapist my thoughts, but not for her to confirm that they aren't true. We work on them but we don't try to disprove them or anything x
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@k-low I have had OCD since I was 8. Had no idea thats what I was dealing with until last month. Got diagnosed at age 45. So that means I spent more than 30 years doing nothing but give into my compulsions. It is a miserable way to live. So if I can learn to stop giving into my compulsions, anyone can. Its definitely not easy, but it can be done.
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@Lms526 Wow that's crazy! Such a long time! So happy for you that you FINALLY got some help! I've only had it for probably 2 years at the most so I'm really lucky I found the help I needed so quickly
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This app is too flooded with posts and not enough people returning help. I really need it like. I’m sorry to be a nuisance but literally nobody else understands OCD & how debilitating it is. I’m so tired. So so tired.
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I feel like having the app is kind of keeping me stuck. I stopped doing therapy after my therapist left abruptly, but I like having the community here. I would feel like I’m abandoning y’all, but it might be better for my mental health? I’m just not sure. I feel like deleting is giving in somehow, but I can always redownload. For the friends I’ve made on here, just know that if I go, I still very much care about you and your wellbeing and recovery! ❤️
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I’m kind of frustrated because for YEARS I’ve been trying to express my concerns. For about 6-7 years I’ve been concerned about having OCD. I’m not diagnosed and I want to talk to a professional to confirm whether or not I have it. I have been struggling with several symptoms over many years of my life and it has been absolutely distressing. I’ve expressed my concerns to two doctors. One of them pretended like they didn’t hear me and the other did give me scenarios that I experience. When I said yes to the ones that applied to me, she said “well it’s very normal for people to wash their hands a lot and check door locks” well yeah but what I experience is so much more than that and it’s been absolutely horrendous. I have super bad compulsions and intrusive thoughts, at some point I broke a TV because I felt like I had to throw these little coasters at it for 5 times. And then after those 5 times, the way I threw it didn’t feel right, so I had to do it again and again until it felt right and then it broke :/ The doctor later told me that they can recommend me to professionals but my mom didn’t want me to because of fear that I can get medicated. But I just want to talk to a professional to be able to express my concerns about it. I also feel bad about talking about what I experience because I don’t want people to think that I’m trying to self diagnose myself. I just want to be able to recognize my struggles and try to overcome what I go through. All I want is help. At some point I went to therapy and I had three sessions and then my mom pulled me out. But in those sessions I haven’t talked about my struggles with OCD yet, I was talking about other issues and my therapist was still trying to get to know me. :( Sometimes when I’ve talked to my parents they don’t really try to listen. Sometimes they tell me “well everyone has a little bit of OCD”. Okay, well I’m not talking about everyone, I’m talking about ME. And back when I struggled so much with violent intrusive thoughts, it was also a time where I felt like I HAD to tell my parents about every thought that I had. And my parents were concerned and thought that I was just in general violent. But I’m not violent, I don’t believe these things. And they STILL don’t want to hear me out on my concerns after all of that. I just want to feel validated with what I go through. I am convinced that I struggle with OCD, but I want to be SURE. I don’t want to feel like I’m self diagnosing. I want to KNOW what I’ve been experiencing all these years. I really do like this app because I feel like I finally relate to other people and that I can REALLY talk about my struggles while being understood. Whether or not if I do have it, I feel really understood and I really understand and relate with others. But anyways I hope I can figure this whole thing out one day😓🙏
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