I need some advice. How do I tell my boy best friend that I don’t want to go out with him at lunch. He is CONSTANTLY nagging me to go out with him at lunch, and since he has told me how much he likes me, I’m just very uncomfortable around him because I have rocd and can’t date him. I am also very uncomfortable because of how flirty he was being toward me, and I just don’t do good with flirting. I just don’t want to go out for lunch with him, but I’m worried he’ll get upset because he can get a bit sensitive. He knows about my ocd, he just doesn’t get it. Being around him lately has caused me a lot of anxiety, and discomfort, and I don’t know why. I just don’t want him to think that I don’t want to be his friend, because I do. I just need time to process this whole thing, and I think I might need to do that away from him. It doesn’t mean I want to end our friendship, I just think I need to gather my thoughts and figure out how to go about our friendship. Any advice as to how to go about this, I will take anything I can get. Thank you very much guys!

I think the discomfort is coming from because he told he how much he liked me, although it could be an ocd thing. To be honest I’m not 100% sure.

I have mentioned to him before that I don’t like going out, because it’s just something I don’t like. And he has asked multiple times and I have kept saying no. But this time, he is being so nagging, and he won’t let up. And I’m sparrows if I don’t say yes he is going to be mad at me. I don’t know what to do.

@LoveyDuck If that's the case, tbh he's just being an asshole.

Yea I know, well it’s not that I DONT want to hang out with him, it’s just that at the moment being with him is making me uncomfortable, and I need some space, but I’m worried that he is going to take it the wrong way.

@LoveyDuck True, he might take it the wrong way. But it's ok for you to put your own needs and feelings ahead of his.

@JoyousEffort Yea I know, it’s just so hard to explain to him. Like he knows about my ocd, and I’ve told him about it, but he just doesn’t get where the anxiety and fear comes in. Like he doesn’t understand why I don’t shake hands with people I don’t know, or why I don’t hug people. To him the things with my ocd just don’t make sense, so I think he is going to think I’m making excuses. But your right I do have to do what’s best for me. And right now that means taking some space. So I guess that’s what I have to do.

@LoveyDuck If someone makes you uncomfortable then you don’t enjoy hanging out with them… at least I don’t! I would never hang out with someone I’m not comfortable being around. And ocd is not for him to understand or for you to make him understand, he doesn’t need an explanation! You simply say I don’t want to hang out sorry. If he continues to ask then you stop replying

@Justmesadly Yes your completely right, I will be doing this! I hope it goes alright. Thank you very very much for responding!

@LoveyDuck Girl you don’t control the outcome! You control how you say it, and what you do if he doesn’t understand (stop replying) and that is all ! You can do this

@Justmesadly Thank you so much! You have no idea how much help you have been. I’m not sure if your interested but I would love to talk to you more on Instagram, if that’s something your comfortable with. If so let me know!!

@LoveyDuck Sorry I do not want you to be dependent on me or look for me for reassurance! Nor do I give out my personal Info. But I’m glad I could help you!

@Justmesadly No problem what so ever! Thank you for responding!