My therapist gives me exposure work to be done at home but I don't do them So when I told him,he gave me the option of pausing our sessions for now until I have the will and courage to get better and tbh I don't have the strength to face my fears I don't know what to do,should I continue the sessions even though they may not be beneficial as I'm not cooperating with him or should I gain strength and have the will to get better firat then resume the sessions? Would really appreciate your advice

I don't agree. With ERP, you get out of it what you put into it. If you do it half heartedly you won't get much benefit. You will get much more benefit if you really commit and give it 100%

Why do you think so?

I don't think its fair to blame the therapist. If the patient isn't willing to put forth the time and hard work required to get better, that isn't the therapist's fault.

@Lms526 the therapist isn't there to make you get better they are there for support no matter how much healing you do. nobody has to heal or get better and they still deserve support

@juicy I agree with the first part. But if the patient doesn't want to get better, they are not doing anything but wasting the therapist's time and keep the therapist from seeing someone who does want to improve and get better.

@Lms526 that's a really really upsetting mindset- therapy has caused me so much harm and trauma over my life and caused WAY more harm to people more oppressed than I. There are way better options for humanity and in America that needs to be the goal to strive for. wasting the therapists time? they are still getting money - the therapist is wasting their own time by not realizing how harmful and irresponsible they are. Ppl are hurting. I don't agree with therapy and honestly will never really suggest that for ppl because there are terrible consequences and way better solutions. Please learn more about colonization, western mindsets, capitalism, white supremacy - it changed my life to learn what ive learned so far and there is still so much out there. please

@juicy I totally get it. I have been hurt by therapists in the past as well. I'm not a big believer in therapy either. Prior to knowing I had OCD, I did about 10 years of talk therapy, but never made any progress even though I did everything I was supposed to. I agree with you. When it comes to OCD, talk therapy does more harm than good. That is why it is so important to get a therapist that understands OCD and specializes in ERP. ERP is a very different kind of therapy. It has been proven to work for OCD. ERP is not easy or fun, but it works. It has helped me so much. I think its a mistake to say that just because you had some bad experiences. Getting the right treatment for the right disorder can make all the difference. I have made more progress in 2 months with my NOCD therapist than I did in years of talk therapy.

I'll definitely try it,thanks!