- Username
- Kooan
- Date posted
- 5y ago
What ocd focuses on doesn’t matter. You treat all the thoughts the same. Watch some of Mark Freeman’s videos on YouTube!
I'm annoyed that so little can be found about TOCD as opposed to HOCD. Thanks for the answer, it means a lot
Can I ask whether your psychiatrist diagnosed you using these terms or if she diagnosed you with OCD? The reason I ask is because I believe it's not usually helpful to put OCD into boxes based on the content of your obsessions. As an extreme example, you could be obsessing about whether you're a llama. You would most likely have to undergo treatment to someone with any other forms of OCD: exposure, and learning to cope with uncertainty and other feelings you don't like.
Saaaame. I have hocd and sometimes I wonder the same as you do. You have my support ♡
Hi there! It's becoming more common as LGBT people are getting more and more visibility in our societies. It's my main obsession as well. I have made huge improvements, the anxiety used to be overwhelming. Read about OCD, take care of your lifestyle and what you eat (coffee used to enhance anxiety for me) Be strong. And I agree Mark Freeman is awesome.
Don't get stuck on that. It really just works the same way. Check out Chrissie Hodges pure OCD advocate on YouTube she made a whole video about TOCD.
Thank you for your support :)
(I could be wrong of course, but that's my understanding)
@Jay Bird I second Mark, he's been a huge help to me personally.
Yes my psychiatrist diagnosed me pure OCD F42. 0
all the best :)
@Cedoux You have/had TOCD a now you feel allright?awesome
Hey yes I'm ok I'd say. There are ups and downs. But I have seen a lot of improvement. I have been off meds for a year now. I still have anxiety from time to time but no panic attacks. I used to think that my well being on meds was just a lie and that without it my obsessions would become real. But here I am, still the same, still a man! I have decided to put all my efforts in my recovery this year and I can feel I will soon see the end of the tunnel. It's a long road I know. It might also depend on your personal life. I can see the anxiety and OCD lessening as my life is getting more stable.
thank you so much
Yes! This is exactly me. I first developed POCD, then I developed “what if I loose control?” I also developed Harm OCD. Then I saw a transgender person on the internet and started thinking “what if I want to be?” It’s been so hard! I brushed it off but it came came back about three weeks ago. Makes me doubt myself so much.
@Beverly I had TOCD, then HOCD then TOCD again(right now) and it’s trying to convince me i am of another gender or i’m non binary.
HOCD, ROCD and TOCD . . . So my OCD recently all began with ROCD, I felt guilty all the time with my boyfriend, I wanted to stay with him so bad and I love him so much but my anxiety kept telling me to leave and that something wasn't right, that I'm going to be alone forever. Then my HOCD came up, "something doesn't seem right, what if you're actually gay?" and I struggled with this for about 2-3 months. After accepting that even if I am gay, I'm staying with my boyfriend.. The theme of being a transgender came up. That was the absolute worst of them all. It was at a time my anxiety was at its Peak so I was feeling disassociated and my mind just tried to explain that feeling as "you're in the wrong body". I was thoroughly convinced I was a man in a girls body for a solid 3 weeks, I woke up and that was the first thing on my mind "your a man and now youre going to lose your boyfriend, your life and everything that makes you, you." I didn't want to be a man, but my mind was saying "too bad, you are". I eventually went to therapy for this feeling, (they didn't diagnose me with OCD so they weren't treating me as an OCD patient) the thoughts eventually went away but now I'm back on my HOCD. Ive now thorougly convinced myself that I'm gay and will be with a woman for the rest of my life. I don't want to be and this thought scares me. I want to be with my boyfriend, not a woman. But my mind is saying "too bad, just accept that your a lesbian, you're in denial, just come out" but I don't want to be a lesbian ? can anyone relate to the feeling of convincing yourself to the point where you believe it?
Does anyone here experience transgender OCD? It’s been my main theme for 2 years and with that I get HOCD (worrying that I’m a gay man). I identify as a bisexual woman and these thoughts have been so distressing to me. They feel so real. I’d really love to connect with people who are going through this.
I've been struggling with my gender identity since about 2018 and have reached the point where I am currently on hormones. For a little bit I thought I was a woman but as time has gone on I've settled more into nonbinary as an identity. Now that I am on hormones, I'm noticing that some changes are positive in my mind and some give me a pretty decent amount of distress and doubt. I then discovered that TOCD is a thing and it's kind of thrown me for a loop since I already know I have OCD. I already had doubts but now I'm like, "Could I just be lying to myself and I actually have TOCD?", "Is this just a transphobic diagnosis that keeps people from living as they want?", "Is it possible for me to have TOCD and still be trans/nonbinary?". I'm going to have to talk to my therapist about it but in the meantime I would love some help understanding this whole issue. Thank you.
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