i keep obsessing over things and mistakes i did in the past (stuff from middle school/highschool) and i'm now 23. stuff normal kids do but i regret it so mich now bc im like id never do it now and i feel like i have to tell my bf everything or since i told him i havent done certain things im lying (even tho i just want to keep stuff to myself) i talk to my therapist and she says this is normal & not everything needs to be confessed but i feel like a horrible person

this is so relatable, i suffer with similar things. you’re not alone in your struggle!

its so hard but we can do it

I suffered the same exact thing for the first 2 years of our relationship, the best advice I found is devaluing the thought of the past action. Mine has evolved to basically needing to be extremely truthful regarding if I made it to class on time, if I saw someone that day and thought they were attractive, and I will need to confess this as they happen. I’ve worked really hard on staying away from doing compulsions which is confessions and rumination for me.I’m seeing progress by doing this, I haven’t had a therapist yet because I can’t afford it right now but I think doing self guided erp is helping. Also check out steven phillipson on the ocd stories podcast because he has some helpful tips that apply to this subtype

But there is hope and it does get better you have to almost learn to play the game better than ocd, or at least that’s how I think about it.