(this might be long but I really want some advice, anyone who bares with this i am do greatful) I think I have gained a new OCD theme A year or so ago I came out at not female, early this year I finally came out as trans male. I have been happy with this up until last weekend My mom sat me down and told me she doesnt think I am trans, my stepdad doesnt either, they think I just want to be different amd I felt outcasted at school and this is my weird way of coping. Ever since then my mind has been full ’what if im not trans??’ ’what if theyre right?!’ and its been upsetting me and scaring me because I really dont want them to be right, I dont even know how I feel anymore but It was so so clear before this, Im scared that its not even OCD, but I dont feel like a girl??? So surely it is ocd? But then i even question that. I cant stop thinking about it, im so desperate to feel that certainty about who I am again... I just want to KNOW who I am.. J feel so scared and alone, Im so scared i was wrong?? What if I am a girl?! Ive changed my name though, I cant see myself as a girl? But i cant see myself as anything right now either? I dont know where to even start on erp or helping myself its so alien, please help

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I’m sorry your parents triggered your OCD so deeply. Those we love and who mean well can accidentally set off avalanches because we value their opinions as we value them. OCD loves that! It loves to hit us where it hurts the most. It also loves to hit us where we wouldn’t expect it, hence where we were feeling certain before it latched on. As a note on your parents’ comments. I personally try to stay open to gender issues, but I also struggle with FULLY understanding. I can logically understand that definitions are expanding and even appreciate embracing that I can find myself better when looking beyond binary. It takes time and work to let knowledge become instinct. However, after decades (personally) and generations (collectively) sometimes it’s hard to COMPLETELY grasp “newer” (they aren’t new at all, just more commonly discussed and accepted) concepts of gender. So while trans persons have existed since genders have, cisgender persons have a lot of catching up to do in understanding and accepting it in a complete and contemporary manner. Why do I remind you of all that while you’re struggling? Because you’re right. And while you love your parents and value what they say, your OCD glommed right onto that. So while your OCD is trying to make you feel uncertain about your own identity. I’m just trying to impishly point out to your OCD the vast uncertainty in their comments. Whether or not my words were any help at all, please know I’m sending you strength and comfort. 💪🏼💜