isnt that reassurance ?
It is not. Just as me answering back is not reassurance. Imagine if I didn't answer back, would you have thought well it may or may not be? We have to be careful not to fall strict to the reassurance rule, I've seen people afraid to ask questions because they don't want to seek reassurance, although that may be good when it's repetitive questions, there's nothing wrong with asking questions and nothing wrong with saying ocd tells lies.
Wish I could, but I don't really know what my values are anymore - my OCD is entirely about my values, so I've had to detach from them in order to detach from OCD. I feel hollow sometimes but it doesn't bother me much. Makes it hard to figure out objective truths, though.
Why did you have to detach from your value? Have you seeked therapy?
It’s hard to get over the guilt of my thoughts as much as I know they’re NOT true, it keeps me from totally moving on, I feel engulfed with my guilt??
You have to treat the guilt the same way you treat the thoughts. Don’t engage with it. Don’t pay attention to it. Just let it be there.
If I broke a window and then told you to pay for it because you broke it, would you? No right? The same with thoughts, you aren't bringing up these thoughts yourself so why take the blame? We can't choose our thoughts as they come, we can try to change them but you know how well that works haha not that well. Seek therapy, you can't out think yourself off ocd, the guilt you feel is just a response that your body has to the lies of ocd, we know our thoughts are lies but the body doesn't. No more guilty life, just live life, it gets easier the more you try to move away from the lies and just live. God bless you
@NOCD Advocate - Cesar O. Great feedback
Cesar, good one, I know what you mean, just hard to break it!! When I think of something it could be violent, I lnow the ifs and buts of life, I’m 59, lol I get anxiety still. Never diagnosed with anything, Ocd, anxiety nothing, it comes and goes. Had it since I was young when I think back, but til My wife and me had kids, it never was bad. When my kids were small it hit me big time, with all the violence and all else, then it was ok for 20years plus. Nith sons Army guys, multiple tours ect, I really wasn’t scared while they were away, but now, home and getting ready to have families ect, it’s coming back? I think of what could of happened to them, then if I try to blick it out I feel like I don’t care, it’s just weird. I just feel worn out and can feel when it hits me, and when it goes… strange
Have you ever seeked therapy or have spoken to a psychologist about this? It doesn't matter what age you have, anything left untreated gets worst and worst. Ocd does have seasons when it's stronger I know what you mean. Seek therapy and I suggest spiritual guidance as well. God is waiting with open arms. God bless.
That’s my saving Grace, God knows the REAL me…. Thanks
He knows us better than ourselves, so with faith in that put everything in His hands, the thoughts the guilt, everything in His hands, let Jesus take care of everything, I suggest looking up the Surrender Novena. God bless you.