How do I get it to stop? I have had ocd for years but I have never had a relationship and never experienced rocd. I don't know how to handle this theme. I knew if I had a relationship I would probably experience it but I honestly thought I would always be single and never have to worry about it 😅
@Hopeforthefuture - the differences in themes can often throw people but the treatment for ocd regardless of the theme is always the same. face your face, resist rituals, reduce avoidance when you can, practice mindfulness along the way, and try to let your values dictate your decisions rather than fear. that's obviously a super simple way of putting it and it's totally easier said than done but i believe in you!
i had this. let me tell you. getting into my relationship and pushing through the thoughts were the best thing to ever happen to me. it practically cured my HOCD and ROCD. just make sure he/she is the right person for you
That is so great to hear!! How do i make sure that he is right for me though? I know ocd will make me doubt that
@panda101010 Thats great as well Panda!! How do you suggest working through the thoughts??
@Hopeforthefuture let ur anxiety peak and do it’s thing and don’t give into compulsions at all
@Hopeforthefuture find out by if he makes you happy. if he makes you happy and genuinely happy then he’s most likely the one. i have faith that this is the best thing for you
@sophiesim22 - great advice!
@Hopeforthefuture - can't be 100% sure even though i know you want to be! ocd will prey on this - we have to behave as though we do not need to be 100% sure. bring it back to your behaviors - your compulsions, either how you are responding to the ocd or how you aren't.
It could be. Remember, OCD is the doubt disorder and makes you feel doubt in a lot of ways. We all have intrusive thoughts or doubts or uncertainties/worries. The problem with OCD is when we often misinterpret these worries or concerns as being legitimate, real, needing automatic fixing, feeling a sense of urgency regarding them, and intolerance of the uncertainty associated with it. When we engage in that piece of it, that's what causes anxiety and therefore the compulsions such as reassurance seeking, avoiding, breaking up etc. So in that moment when you have the doubt, it can feel REALLY REAL and perhaps legitimate - try to "park it" so to speak and continue living your values driven life, whatever that means, try to bring your awareness back to the present moment of whatever interests you at that time. Try as hard as you can to not engage with that obsessive doubt and leave it on the back burner and see how you feel after a little while.
Okay. Thank you!! So what should I do when these thoughts pop up in the moment? And how can i tell if they are real or just ocd?