I’m about to have a breakdown. Idk who to talk to. Idk if my bf wants to be with me anymore. I made a mistake and now he’s still having a disconnect from me. I asked if he still wanted to be with me and he didn’t even answer it.

This comment means a lot to me. Thank you so much. I want him to realize that too. My statement wasn’t intended to come off as a personal attack but it hurt him so much to the point where he cried. I feel really bad but I do deserve a second chance. I know that if he gives up, he’s not the right one.. it’s just scary even hearing that sometimes 😔 i feel like every guy I’ve talked to gives up on me. It hurts so much. He’s doing better now but ofc it hurt to feel like he was unsure of being with me.

@gg And YOU have a right to feel hurt by him feeling uncertain. But what I will say is, uncertainty in relationships is extremely common. And sometimes this is just the persons initial reaction to the comment. Later they often look back and realized they were taking it quite personally. That’s why often in future conversations, we respond differently, because we learned from the last one. Maybe it would be good for you guys to talk about how you can use this for future discussions. This is all very normal.

@Maybe,MaybeNot So uncertainty is common in relationships? I think it would be helpful for us to talk about how we can use that experience for future ones. I’m currently struggling with so many emotions. With him being uncertain, a lot of fears are coming up. “What if there is someone else,” “Does he not love or care for me anymore,” “Have I changed in his eyes,” “Is he just going to give up on me.” I haven’t expressed these to him yet because we’re finally getting back to normal. I will eventually. I’m just scared. Scared of ruining things. Every guy before him, I’ve never been enough. I just want someone to love me and not give up on me. 😔

@gg Yes it’s very common. None of us are 100% certain of anything! What you experienced sounds very normal. I personally don’t really think it’s fair how he responded to you based on what you said your “mistake” was because like we are humans and we aren’t perfect and we need room to make mistakes in our relationships, but if this is one of your first situations like this sometimes it’s kind of just like and ice breaker and then it teaches you both more understanding in the relationship

Yes I’m sorry that you’re going through this !! It really sounds like he’s being emotionally unavailable and you can’t blame yourself for that sending peace

Thank you. I guess I just made him feel really bad because I sort of painted him out to be an ignorant person, but those were my fears talking. I’m a poc and he isn’t so Ofc I was worrying about him potentially being ignorant but Ik that’s not who he is