I’m panicking!! Haven’t been able to get a hold of my bf the last four hours and ROCD is kicking in!

Yeah. There’s no telling what’s happening. But stressing about it and worrying will not help you. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Go do something for yourself! Like you told me earlier there is no way of knowing for sure.

don’t let it have this kind of control over you!! we can never know what anyone else is thinking or doing, that is just the kind of doubt that everyone lives with in their lives.

breath. Think. could he be cheating on you? Maybe maybe not. It's hard but say maybe maybe not. it is not in your control and nothing you say or do for OCD can change that. believe in him the way you would want him to believe in you❤️

Think of all the times you have thought this. How many times have you been wrong. Sometimes I build this great story in my head about what my boyfriend is doing to only find out later he was putting a pump in the pool or speaking with his kids.

@ Moving Forward I think she knows these things, however her ocd is also kicking in which she can not control, maybe she wants her boyfriend to be fine but she cannot help what’s in her head. Let the GIRL be. I’m sorry, that just ticked me off bc she can’t calm down bc of what’s in her head and I’m sure she wants to more than anything.

You can handle it. You can make it through. The anxiety will pass no matter what happens. Have you been texting and calling him a ton? I know when I do that my husband sometimes won’t pick up or talk because he knows I’m anxious. Maybe send a text saying that you miss him and just want to have a pleasant talk. And don’t question him when he calls!

do something crazy and smile. Even if you don't feel like it. Smiling always helps even a tiny bit. You can do this

That’s what it feels like when you are in the moment. I always think that way when I’m in an attack. But you must remember that there is hope. Plenty of people go through this and come out okay. Yeah. It stinks that he’s not calling you. What did he say the last time he spoke with you? Did you have a fight? He may be taking a break from everything. Take this time to reflect on what you want as well. If you love him and he loves you then it’s worth the fight.

We weren’t really fighting but it’s been tense the last few months because of this. I guess he’s taking a break. I do love him but at the same time I feel like he’s not thinking of my side of things.

How do I know he’s not out cheating on me?????

Is he working?

???

No today is his day off

Have you spoken with him P?

No not yet

I haven’t heard anything :(

I broke down and took a Xanax. I probably pissed him off and he won’t call me now

It’s been 6 hrs since we last spoke - the anxiety is killing me

I feel desperate and I’m afraid I can’t handle this

Yes I totally blew up his phone and was so angry. He said he’d leave the ringer on. But still nothing. I’m very afraid he won’t call me at all tonight. I texted him to apologize and if he found it in his heart to call me I’d be grateful.

You don’t. You just have to accept that he might be. He may not be as well I know it’s incredibly hard trust me I’m anxious about going home and eating infront of my husband because that’s what my ocd attacks. I’m scared but I HAVE to accept it.

Omg.....

not crazy I meant smiling is crazy whoops(:

are you ok???

@P is everything ok

I still haven’t heard from him

I’m still freaking out and I guess I pissed him off beyond belief and I’m just beside myself :(

I know he’s gotten my messages and calls and I don’t understand and I just keep thinking we are going to break up or he’s out cheating or I don’t know what

I don’t know why he would do this to me he knows I am panicking

Did you ever hear from him P?

No :(

I’m so sorry P. He really should call you. I would be worried as well. But you can’t control what he’s doing. You can control what you do with your day. Go and do something for yourself! You deserve to be happy and do not need to depend on anyone else to do that for you. As hard as it is, believe that you are okay no matter what!

And please try and refrain from contacting him again. He will when he is ready.

I feel like it’s cruel that he didn’t call considering my condition. I don’t know if I want to be with him anymore.

Actually I just feel desperate. Nothing will improve. Ocd is forever. I will never get better. This will never be ok.

I feel so desperate

I don’t know what to do

I feel so awful and desperate and I don’t know if it’s my ocd telling me he’s being a jerk by not calling or it’s really just not ok and we should call it quits totally

he might be trying to you to the uncertainty? I have no idea I'm sorry just a thought

No he doesn’t understand that concept. He’s fed up. I still haven’t heard anything.

How long have you guys been dating?

8 mos