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I'm almost 18 btw Can someone respond plsssss not trying to seek reassurance just tell me your opinion
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@good_day𦢠I mean, idk, I do think he's attractive and a really good interesting person, but idk It's really confusing to me and I hate making decisions... I don't think I want to go out with him because I don't wanna hurt his feelings or because I'm lonely. I just really don't know if I want or not
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@Obsessd Haha I understand I still don't know tho I don't want to let him wait of answer any longer, it's not that nice :/ I really don't know what to do damn
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@good_day𦢠Thank you! You're so nice :^) Is it even okay to start dating someone while you are not sure what you feel Got damn. I need to study for my exam but I'm too nervous and I really wanna answer him real soon He's probably worried too about the decision I'm about to make and I hate it
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@good_day𦢠That's a good advice actually, so it's okat to tell him I'm not sure if I like him I that kind of way but I'd like to give it a try if he feels comfortable with that? Thank you so much for the help :^)
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@bluesapphire Yea. Good_day is right. Put the ball in their court by being honest and telling them whatās going on. You love him as a friend and you are afraid of breaking that. You also donāt know yet how compatible you guys are. So if heās willing to accept that, you guys could try it. I find that especially with anxiety, although itās a scary thing to do, being vulnerable makes your whole life a bit easier. You donāt have to worry about that fateful day when you have to reveal something or when they find out something. You can just put it out on the table. And you have nothing to lose. Itās really up to them to hold their end of the bargain.
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