18+ content So I was watching adult content until a random thought of my friend came out (guy). I'm a hundred percent straight and I know these thoughts are nonsense but boy why did it happen? Ever since my friend came out my brain started telling me what if I'm gay? The last time i met him there was this awkward tension. I didn't know how to look at him and my mind was all over the place. Are you getting a groinal response? I accepted the thoughts and said yeah I'm totally gay and I started punching him as I always did. The thoughts went away but like I said before, an image of him came when I was watching adult content....

Drewcobene

Date posted: 3y

From my own life experience, I would say play with the idea that you may be bi. If you realize you're straight, cool, and if you realize you're bi, also cool. Worst that can happen is that you find out you don't like something new. But you can also find out there's a whole new aspect of dating and relationships that you might enjoy that you were previously unaware of. I've dated guys and girls and figured out I like both but prefer women. Honestly it hasn't affected my life that much in comparison to all the other things I live through. Society makes a huge deal about sexuality when it really doesn't matter that much. Only thing to consider is safety. If you live somewhere homophobic or have homophobic people in your life, just be careful about how much you vocalize. You can also talk to your friend who just came out. I've had a lot of queer friends and I can confidently say, telling your gay friend that you're questioning is something that he can really help you out with. Or asking other LGBT people on the internet or other friends you don't think there would be any tension on your relationship for asking. Maybe don't tell your friend you had thoughts about him specifically until you figure out yourself a little more. Regardless of what you end up identifying as, you deserve love and support. In the grand scheme of things, who we choose to love is really not that big of a deal. As long as you and your future partners are happy and you're not hurting anyone (including yourself), go for it! Humans aren't necessarily straight by nature, we're pretty flexible. At least that's what I've learned through my primate research. You might find out you still like girls after all and the thought was just a coincidence. You might find out you like both. You might find out you prefer men. It's honestly pretty fun to slowly figure out what things you like. I'm not saying immediately go out and fuck your friend, start with what you're comfortable with and just see how your brain reacts. Maybe that means doing nothing differently and keeping an open mind, maybe that means experimenting with more videos, maybe that means listening to other's life experience and finding out what resonates with you. But in my experience, trying to repress thoughts that aren't all that comfortable does nothing but hurt you. It's your life, choose to explore or not, but there's no benefit in judging your thoughts before they even happen. Good luck and remember to care for yourself first. You don't need to initiate an identity crisis now if you're not doing well already. Been there lol

adina040

Date posted: 3y

Accepting the thoughts is your best plan of action. Intrusive thoughts will intrude, so don't treat this new one too special. That's how it traps you. You're doing great.

rugirl48!

Date posted: 23w

Really bad night.

I was doing very well with all my thoughts but then they started to get really bad this week. I am very sure I am straight and only want to be with a man but I have such good relationships with my girl friends and my mind plays tricks on me and likes to make me think it’s more than just a friendship. And this voice in my head tells me it’s not disgusting when in reality I would never do anything physical with them at all.But they get so intense I start to believe it. I just am not sure how to get out of this cycle. Every time I get better I think about getting in a relationship with a man and i freak out (what if i don’t like it? does that mean ill have to be gay) and all these thoughts blow up in my face and so can’t take it anymore. My bestie is coming to visit me and the thoughts get so intense when she is around and i really want to be in a good head space to spend time with her because i know deep down she’s my best friend and nothing more. Any suggestion to help?

Anonymousssssss

Date posted: 18w

Can someone please offer words of advice :(

Why are things so real the first time they’re in my mind and then when I think about it later it’s easier for me to be like wtf?? I was watching a movie earlier and the young girl had developed more in the chest area than the last movie and I felt the desire to check her out so I did. Then later I let myself imagine her having sex and I liked it. But now looking back I’m like ew. The boys in the movie have also developed as the movie went on and I couldn’t help but think that in their real life they’ve probably woken up to boners and s*men and stuff. And looking back it’s just ugh. Idk if it’s sexual relevance but I genuinely let myself indulge in these thoughts and groinal responses and I remember thinking to myself I don’t want to be attracted to little kids and how do I stop myself (everyone has attractive qualities so in younger boys I see man like qualities). Idk I need help. I wouldn’t type this out if I truly believe I was messed up but I’m still scared

Anonymous

Date posted: 14w

Having a erection while simultaneously having bad memories of past actions

Hey guys I'm 17 years old I had experience with OCD I looked trans pornography and femboy stuff I'm straight I didn't jerk off to it I was really only looking at it in the past I have but for some reason I just felt like looking at it and when I did I did experience arousal not only that while I had a boner I simultaneously was thinking of memories and bad actions I had in 4th grade with another boy I myself not a homosexual I was a kid I did something with another boy I regret it I had that thought in my head lingering there in my head but I noticed pre ejaculation and now I feel anxiety because now it feels like I was intrigued by the thought it feels like it is it was probably to the video visual stimulus but it's hard I didn't jerk off to it at all I was really just looking idk what to do it feels like I did experience it to the video but also my thoughts say to the thought idk what to do can someone shed light on this

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