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- 3y
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- 3y
also, a relationship doesn't necessarily have to be abusive in order to justify taking a break or permanently separating. there are many situations in which it's no longer healthy to stay with a partner. if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, then that is all the reason you need to separate yourself from the relationship.
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Nobody Should ever ever ever put their hands on eachother not you on him or him on you. ESPECIALLY with little ones. Babies need to feel and see unconditional love. Your relationship is not healthy and if you’re putting your hands on eachother you shouldn’t be together at all.
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I know that he is stronger than you and men shouldn't hit woman but you shouldn't have pushed him, that's not how you get a point across, it's actually the opposite. Tell him how him correcting you makes you feel? Him correcting you is not abuse, Just plain narcissism at most.
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- 3y
He just constantly corrects me over petty stuff, like how I unload the dishwasher, etc and it just irks me because the way he sees things he is so selfish, and I guess it just hurts that the way he sees things is through such a selfish eye. I try to talk it through and explain that I’ve had enough, but he does not listen to me
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- 3y
No, him hitting you and you hitting him is definitely abuse.
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- 3y
abuse can be a complicated subject. i can't give you advice based on a small portion of what you've said. however, the fact that you're having any kind of physical fight, especially around a young child, is a sign of something dangerous going on between you two. i recommend taking some space away from each other. stay at a relative's house for a while. i strongly believe you should seek therapy for this issue. even if he is not abusing you, it sounds like there is hostility going on and that needs to be addressed immediately. getting some space should also enable you to think more clearly about the situation and assess whether it's a difficult time in the relationship, or a pattern of abuse...
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- 3y
If you’re putting hands on each other, you’re both at fault. And around kids? That’s unacceptable.
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- 21w
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- 21w
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