Im not sure if this is ocd related or not, but I am at my wits end with my husband. I feel like he is maybe borderline abusive, he is constantly correcting me on all of these things and I can’t take it anymore, I tell him to stop and explain that just because I do something differently then how he would do it it’s okay, but he just continuously corrects me. I’m not gonna lie, on a few occasions I have pushed or shoved him to get my point across, but only because he doesn’t leave me alone or listen to me and I feel like that is my only way to get my point across. He’s bigger than me so I know I am not hurting him, but when I have done this he responds a lot more powerful and drags me or throws me etc. he did it the other day in front of our one year old baby and the baby was distraught from the whole scene. I’m just very confused where to go from here, I try to talk to him but he doesn’t listen and I have no one else to talk to.

also, a relationship doesn't necessarily have to be abusive in order to justify taking a break or permanently separating. there are many situations in which it's no longer healthy to stay with a partner. if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, then that is all the reason you need to separate yourself from the relationship.

Nobody Should ever ever ever put their hands on eachother not you on him or him on you. ESPECIALLY with little ones. Babies need to feel and see unconditional love. Your relationship is not healthy and if you’re putting your hands on eachother you shouldn’t be together at all.

I know that he is stronger than you and men shouldn't hit woman but you shouldn't have pushed him, that's not how you get a point across, it's actually the opposite. Tell him how him correcting you makes you feel? Him correcting you is not abuse, Just plain narcissism at most.

No, him hitting you and you hitting him is definitely abuse.

abuse can be a complicated subject. i can't give you advice based on a small portion of what you've said. however, the fact that you're having any kind of physical fight, especially around a young child, is a sign of something dangerous going on between you two. i recommend taking some space away from each other. stay at a relative's house for a while. i strongly believe you should seek therapy for this issue. even if he is not abusing you, it sounds like there is hostility going on and that needs to be addressed immediately. getting some space should also enable you to think more clearly about the situation and assess whether it's a difficult time in the relationship, or a pattern of abuse...

If you’re putting hands on each other, you’re both at fault. And around kids? That’s unacceptable.