Last night I compulsively sent a really long text to my friend. She didn’t respond, which makes sense because (a) I had told her she didn’t have to and (b) it was long and rambly and OCD-like. I really want to undo it, but obviously I can’t and know I need to accept it. BUT do you have any advice on how to move forward? I think apologizing just makes things worse and fuels the OCD cycle? Should I follow up with another text or just let it be? If I text her, what should I say? She knows I have OCD but really doesn’t understand what OCD is so I don’t feel like it’s easy to explain.

BananaDoorknob

198d ago

I don’t like to give advice here because I’m not a therapist but as a patient who has sent texts like this, here’s a script you can use. Keep it short. “ hi, please disregard the text I sent last night. I was feeling really anxious and i poured that anxious energy into a long message to you. That was wrong, and I’m sorry. I hope we can catch up soon.”

Anonymous

198d ago

This is really helpful, thank you!! She ended up messaging back shortly after I posted but I will keep this in mind for next time and I really appreciate you taking the time to respond!

McGonigal

198d ago

I also have a really hard time with sending messages to people & then wanting to delete them or try to back track once I'm no longer feeling that way or bc I feel embarrassed about feeling that way & seeking that reassurance/validation or just anxious ranting