- Username
- Aly-Marie
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@hello123_ thank you that means a lot sincerely I am so grateful for you all u have no idea
Me too, it’s comforting knowing there’s a place where we can speak so openly
or I guess you do haha
Take comfort in knowing that this is not an uncommon issue, especially in the realm of mental illness. I know it is hard to not receive validation from those you need it from, but please remember that you have the access to a variety of networks with individuals who do understand. Even if those closest to you cannot, it does mean you must be alone. When I experienced this issue, I decided to just use the time I spent with my family as a “break” window from focusing on my recovery. It’s okay for different people to serve different purposes in your life, even if the purposes don’t always align with what you would like them to be. That being said, everyone is glad that you are :)
Thank you
They sometimes though put me down for it so that's why it hurts
Like when your own blood wants to make fun of you or put you down for ur mental illness it's just a real jab in the heart
It can be dangerous to experience that kind of invalidation when you are not in a stable mindset. What I would suggest, instead of using your energy to change their minds, I would set a boundary for yourself that you’ll discuss the topic with only those who will be understanding of it. I know it’s hurtful that your family has taken the option to be your support system away, but you have the power to do what is best for you. Maybe in the future your family will be more open to your condition, but right now, your emotional well-being is what’s most important.
Thank you. I guess it's just best not to discuss this with them. I mean no one is perfect and it's so unfair of them to judge me... I will rely on the group chats and therapy .. i am knew to all this was actually in denial due to not wanting to be judged by my own family. Ready to face the truth and heal. Thank you for your kind words you really made a difference for me in my healing process.
I don’t tell my family what I’m going through, because like yours they haven’t experienced it so they don’t really understand, this is an amazing app where everyone is so helpful and we all know what each other are going through, and therapists too, sending you love❤️
know that you changed a life for the better with ur kindness I am stronger now to set my boundaries
I hear you it super duper uper lonely. Something I was telling someone the other day tho, you get to choose your family. Your relatives will always be relatives but you decide who’s your family. Also maybe try to talk about it try to educate even if just a little. Make sure you’re safe with them first tho. You got this
Haha loveeee being told im crazy and i need help and not in a nice way either! Ive found that actually makes it worse. Ive had people bring it up to me like coworkers, friends and some (nice) fam members but just that they notice and it actually helps me notice too and really think about it like wow i really am washing my hands too much, etc. funny how being caring whether someone understands or not can help.
No it's more in a labeling way when I'm not doing anything haha it's like my opinions dont matter ...
like I'm not a person so kinda different
It's funny how people think they are so perfect right.. we all have flaws that's what makes us us... it's a beautiful thing
I wanna know if anyone can relate. My family doesn't think my depression or OCD is real. They haven't said it in that many words but they've said along the lines of 'you just need to shake yourself and you'll be fine'. BUT I have my boyfriend who listens, who seems to care and I am very happy I have him but I just feel like I'm a tremendous burden on him. I don't have many friends and any friends I do have are always busy, are work friends who don't care or are only friends with me because of my boyfriend. I feel weak and lonely. I need to know what to do.
Sometimes, when I have long periods of low trigger days, I feel like maybe I don't have OCD. Then I have a couple weeks like I'm having now, just to remind me that it's no fluke. I know life isn't fair. I'm just trying to figure out how it could have turned so wrong. There's no OCD on my family, other than myself. I have some cousins with bipolar, but that might have come from the other side of their family. No direct line above me. It really really sucks.
My family literally is always against me and doesn’t understand my ocd at all. They are all so stubborn and don’t make an effort to even empathize with me and always make me the bad guy. I’m just so tired of no one being on my side and my family saying all these derogatory things to me. Even if I make a small mistake, it is the end of the world for them and they all gang up and won’t speak to me properly for days as a result. 😔
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